How to balance work and your relationship?

[Voguester]

I recently got a new job and it's full-time, 7 days a week. The problem is that is coinsides when i talk to my boyfriend who lives in another country right now.

I will be moving to be with him in a couple of months time but how do we keep our relationship going until then if we hardly ever get the chance to talk to each other? I'm concerned he'll start losing interest me

We usually get to talk every day for hours so this is going to be a big change.

[OptomisticGirl]

You just have to make it work. My fiancé and I run on a five hour time difference, when I get up to go to work on second shift, he is coming home from work. We usually grab 20 mins of phone skype on my way to work and then email up until my lunch break (9 pm his time), talk for 30 mins and thn he goes to bed. He is currently in a training thing were we aren't able to do that, we a only getting that phone call on the way to work and that's it. It's not easy, you just have to keep looking forward.

[TwelveThirty]

How many months are you talking about?

If he agrees with your relationship being put to a halt for this long, then that's fine.

Otherwise, can you ask for one day off every one or two weeks - or only a couple of hours if that's better - for this lenght of time, and then saying that you'll return to full-time right after?

[baguette]

You'll be with him in a couple of months, really, it's not that big of a deal. Try to get a few phone calls in between, and leave longer emails to each other when you're free. You don't HAVE to talk everyday for hours, have some faith in your relationship. Life and love isn't about being attached at the hip to your SO, it's about being with a partner who will patiently and consistently help you reach your greatest potential with.

[abitbroken]

Well, can't you talk to him a different time? If there is a time difference, what about calling him on your lunch hour from the car, or make an effort to call him when it might not be as convenient, like waking up at 6 instead of 8 am for work, talking to him after you get ready for work, and then turning in early at night to compensate, or what about if he stays up a little later to talk to you on your way home from work? If its just a few months, you can make it work.

[abitbroken]

Well, can't you talk to him a different time? If there is a time difference, what about calling him on your lunch hour from the car, or make an effort to call him when it might not be as convenient, like waking up at 6 instead of 8 am for work, talking to him after you get ready for work, and then turning in early at night to compensate, or what about if he stays up a little later to talk to you on your way home from work? If its just a few months, you can make it work. btw, when you are together, you won't get to talk "for hours". It will be a little in the morning, a little later in the day, and then when you both come home at night. it won't be all at once.