No strength to fight today

[Meriem]

Is it okay to let myself be miserable for as long as I want? I've been out of that relationship for 2-3 months, it was a painful relationship..

Right now I feel some depression mixed with some heart ache and I'm not guna do anything about it, is it okay to just let it be for as long as it wants to stay? Or will that do more damage?

[LINReg]

I don't see why not.

 

I think its only "damaging" when you let the sadness stop you from going out or enjoying your life. 2-3 months isn't very long (my break up time is about the same) and its important to take time grieve otherwise it'll just build up. Unfortunately there is no defining moment for getting over these things so I've flipped back and forth between happy and sad days myself for weeks now. Be sad when you want to be and when that miserable feeling passes (and it will), remember to just pick yourself up and go on with your life.

[HE16]

There's a point when being miserable just isn't giving you a good quality of life... if you're in NC, for example, the depression is coming from you, not your ex. So it's up to you to remove that pain.

 

I don't think it will do more damage but if you don't try to get rid of it - and by that I mean accepting that the relationship is over and there is someone far better out there, moving on and doing things that you enjoy - it won't go away on it's own. Time is a good healer, yes, but you need to try too! Good luck x

[BriMarie]

I have been post BU for 2 months, and still find myself lying in bed for the majority of the day sometimes. however, I have realized that I am much more hopeful and happy when i force myself to go out either with friends, to a dance class, or even on a date. I went on a date last week I had ZERO desire to go on and ended up having a great time. Made a new friend in the process. Forcing yourself out there doesn't make it go away, but you are less likely to break down and be miserable in public Know we are here with you fighting the same battle