Advice

[Sharie]

To make a long story short I had messed up big time and I apologized to this man several times he stated that he wanted to be friends I did not take that to kind I went off on him and then I said some harsh stuff a week or so later we kind of text back and forth about how he is goanna focus on his job I had asked him if he loved me no response then I asked him if her ever had any type of feelings for me he said its not about love anymore. I asked him if we could ever be friends he said maybe. Threw a week after I text him and explained what happened no response then I decided to change my number because I could not take it no more then I felt

for it I called him and gave my number I know ? No response I told him why he hates me and if he do not want to talk to me again just tell me no response. Then I got a text 5 days later and he states I won't go back its not that I hate you. I kind have a gut instinct that he do loves me I wished him his choice but I want to be with him any advice.

[magnoliatree]

I think you need to get a hold of your emotions before you talk to him again. Going off on him is only driving him away and reaffirming whatever negative impressions he has of you.

[Sharie]

i'm starting the NC for now i was just hurt and could not understand on why he would give up on me we only seen each other three times and we hardly knew about each other i left the other guy for him i was a big mess. thanks for your input

[endy]

I think you need to seriously move on. Why would you think he loves you if he doesn't respond to your texts? You are acting very obsessive. When someone wants space then give it to them... permanently. When they want to talk to you they will talk to you. Just start moving on and worrying about yourself and not if he's going to talk to you or not. He's one person not the only guy in the world.

[sada88]

Well, you sort of left the other guy for this one. And I think you should stay away from your ex because you are justifying why he left you with the constant feed of negative emotions. Dumpers normally say, "Let's be friends" to ease their guilt, most of them actually have no intentions of doing so.

[endy]

i'm starting the NC for now i was just hurt and could not understand on why he would give up on me we only seen each other three times and we hardly knew about each other i left the other guy for him i was a big mess. thanks for your input

 

You left someone for someone else? This isn't healthy either. How is/was your parents relationships. Were you abandoned when you were young at all? Usually behavior like this says there's something wrong inside. It's never healthy to jump from relationship to relationship because you think someone else is better or will make you happier. Sorry didn't see the second post the first time around. I'm sorry you're hurt but really you need to examine why you left for another person. I mean deeply because it's not healthy behavior.

[Sharie]

my whole life i had a relationship and never had anything to myself i guess it is time the other relationship was good and he loved me for me but i got so anxious with this other guy it got boring wtih my guy no attention that is why thnk you for your feedback