midnightdeirdre Posted February 2, 2014 Author Share Posted February 2, 2014 You would not call his boss at a regular work place and say,"excuse me but I want some time with my boyfriend so can you please make sure he does not work weekends" He would have no job the minute after you hung up the phone. But why would a boss fire their employee if someone else had called and asked for time off? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 2, 2014 Share Posted February 2, 2014 Because what your significant other does can reflect upon your employment. And if your significant other has to call your boss to say you need time off you're probably not grown-up enough to have a job. Adults don't need a mommy when it comes to their job. And your partner should not be interfering in your employment. Link to comment
Circe Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 No. Tulipwriter, no. Don't do it. It will really, really annoy your boyfriend because it's really inappropriate. This is another triangulation thing! You have an issue with your boyfriend's availability - you sort it out directly with your boyfriend. You don't try to do it by involving this other person. You will annoy your bf. You will make this other person uncomfortable. Link to comment
Circe Posted February 3, 2014 Share Posted February 3, 2014 Omg - this is a really old post, isnt it? Link to comment
midnightdeirdre Posted February 3, 2014 Author Share Posted February 3, 2014 Omg - this is a really old post, isnt it? LOL, yes, it is! *hugs* Almost 3 years ago. Thank you for your concern, though. How did you find this forum? Link to comment
midnightdeirdre Posted March 4, 2017 Author Share Posted March 4, 2017 And if your significant other has to call your boss to say you need time off you're probably not grown-up enough to have a job. Adults don't need a mommy when it comes to their job. And your partner should not be interfering in your employment. The boss would probably say this: "Yeah, nice joke. Don't call here again." CLICK. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 OP, do you realize you resurrected your thread from 6 years ago? Link to comment
midnightdeirdre Posted March 4, 2017 Author Share Posted March 4, 2017 OP, do you realize you resurrected your thread from 6 years ago? ...did I? No, I had no idea. #sarcasm Obviously, I know I did. This was on my mind, and I had to add this in. For one last laugh. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted March 5, 2017 Share Posted March 5, 2017 Since you've returned to the thread so long after the fact - care to share an update? How did it pan out with the two of you? Link to comment
midnightdeirdre Posted March 5, 2017 Author Share Posted March 5, 2017 Since you've returned to the thread so long after the fact - care to share an update? How did it pan out with the two of you? Sure. We broke up shortly after this whole thread panned out. He decided he did want to have children after all. ("The sooner the better" he said.) After we broke up, I quickly realized that he lacked maturity and responsibility on many levels. Plus, he was a total extrovert, whereas I'm a total introvert---although we did complement each other in that way. For example, when I was in the mood to go out and do something, he was ALWAYS up for it. Never backed down at all whenever I suggested we take a trip somewhere. He hated having nothing to do, always said yes to an adventure. But as I said, he lacked maturity/responsibility. Like, he freely commented on other women, which obviously I didn't want to hear. ("She looks pretty with her hair like that" "I went to cooking school with this girl who was so pretty she could've been a model, it was funny to see her chop up meat" "Why would he hit on her when he has such a pretty wife?" and/or he jokingly went "Woo!" at a girl was in a bikini on TV.) lol, I have a guy friend who dated a girl who would withhold sex for weeks whenever she caught him checking out another girl. I should've done that to this ex, that probably would've taught him to keep his mouth shut. But all right, to be fair when I dated him I was struggling a lot with my own confidence/self-esteem and ideas about what a soulmate/boyfriend should be...I had a lot of misconceptions about what it meant to have "the One." I think he might've back then as well. Link to comment
midnightdeirdre Posted March 5, 2017 Author Share Posted March 5, 2017 I should also add that back then it was still undiscovered that I was autistic. That wasn't found out until 2013. Link to comment
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