is it safe to have a guy cuming inside the condom while he is still inside of u?

[TasmineFr]

I don't wanna get pregnant so we are using condoms all the times and he always cums inside me with the condom on, i am not on the pill and i am not gonna go on it , do u think i am still protected enough or should i ask him to pull out when he is about to come?

[hexaemeron]

When used correctly, condoms are usually around 97% effective. So while the odds are in your favor, it's not a 100% solution.

[gingerlemon]

I have used condoms as my main birth control for the past fifteen years or so. It is generally quite safe. I have experienced it breaking about two times, and have it sliding off (while he's inside me) maybe another couple of times. In those cases, I've taken a morning after pill. I've never had any unwanted pregnancies. In short, it's pretty safe but nothing is 100%.

[TasmineFr]

I am not going on the pill again, it game me bad migraines ....

i have asked him to pull out when he feels that he is cuming , but he has often complained that he feels hornier to know that he can cum inside ....plus we are always very extra careful...do guys feel less wanted if a girl would ask u that ?

I always check the tip of the condom , for licking or dropping ....just for peace of mind , it is always intact and so far so good

[hexaemeron]

I am not going on the pill again, it game me bad migraines ....

i have asked him to pull out when he feels that he is cuming , but he has often complained that he feels hornier to know that he can cum inside ....plus we are always very extra careful...do guys feel less wanted if a girl would ask u that ?

I always check the tip of the condom , for licking or dropping ....just for peace of mind , it is always intact and so far so good

 

Think of it like this. It's roughly equivalent to a guy getting you to the very edge of orgasm, and then telling you "okay, go ahead and finish yourself off"

 

Fun, huh?

[tresqua]

It's always going to be safer to pull out even when wearing a condom. Condoms can be defective, they can tear, they can come off.

 

But at some point you gotta figure the cost/benefit ratio. Is it really worth it?

 

I mean do you take an umbrella with you on a sunny day in case a sudden thunderstorm rolls in? Do you wear a life preserver on an airplane just in case you have to make an emergency water landing? Do you not get in a car and drive it because there's a chance you might get in an accident? Do you never wear stained underwear in case you're in a fatal accident and you don't want the mortician to see it?

 

At some point you just gotta go with the odds and live your life.

[TasmineFr]

The condoms he uses are rather tight on his .....so i think it should prevent it from sliding off or not?

[TasmineFr]

Think of it like this. It's roughly equivalent to a guy getting you to the very edge of orgasm, and then telling you "okay, go ahead and finish yourself off"

 

Fun, huh?

 

No, it is not, infact.... i let him have his ways ....i want him to enjoy it as much as i am...i want him to be happy when we are having sex

[hexaemeron]

No, it is not, infact i let him have it his ways ....i want him to enjoy it as much as i am

 

Do you two use spermicidal lubricants?

[TasmineFr]

Do you two use spermicidal lubricants?[/quote

 

Nope, i use the lube to make me get wetter , is it the same thing? If no could u explain what difference is there.... between the two , please?

[hexaemeron]

Do you two use spermicidal lubricants?[/quote

 

Nope, i use the lube to make me get wetter , is it the same thing? If no could u explain what difference is there.... between the two , please?

 

Spermicidal lubricant is lube that has an agent in it that kills sperm.

[TasmineFr]

Do all the lubes on the market have that agent ?

I am not always wet and i don't wanna feel pain that's the main reason i use the lube , didnt know it has other properties ....good to know...

[hexaemeron]

Do all the lubes on the market have that agent ?

I am not always wet and i don't wanna feel pain that's the main reason i use the lube , didnt know it has other properties ....good to know...

 

No, not all do. You have to do some homework, but they're definitely out there.

[TasmineFr]

I will definitely look into that, hexaemeron and thanks for suggesting it to me....i had not thought about it

[Mercurial Girl]

I was always taught that the proper way to use a condom was the withdraw right before orgasm. Condoms DO break and leak after all. However, I don't personally know anyone at all who uses them as that way and it seems most weren't taught to use them the way that I was.

[Snowy]

Pulling out somewhat defeats the purpose of using the condom in the first place.

[tresqua]

Pulling out somewhat defeats the purpose of using the condom in the first place.

 

I will disagree and say the effect is additive. By your logic, someone who uses the pill and a condom is defeating the purpose of one, by using the other (if you negate the protection from STDs provided by a condom).

[Snowy]

I will disagree and say the effect is additive. By your logic, someone who uses the pill and a condom is defeating the purpose of one, by using the other (if you negate the protection from STDs provided by a condom).

 

The pill and condom analogy doesn't reflect my logic at all. And I do agree that the effect is additive.

 

My logic was, a condom is designed to trap everything inside the condom right? This include precum. So if it traps precum, then it obviously traps semen. If the condom was broken, then the precum would have already leaked out, therefore she's still going to be pregnant even if he pulls out.

 

Although my logic ignores the probability of becoming preganant by precum vs. the probablity of becoming pregnant by semen.

 

Just in case you didn't get what I meant, I'll summarise: Basicallly, if the condom was perfectly intact, then she wouldn't get preggo pull out or not. But if the condom was broken, regardless if he pulled out or not, she would've been exposed to being pregnant. And therefore, she would have to take an emergency pill.

[tresqua]

Just in case you didn't get what I meant, I'll summarise: Basicallly, if the condom was perfectly intact, then she wouldn't get preggo pull out or not. But if the condom was broken, regardless if he pulled out or not, she would've been exposed to being pregnant.

 

Well, as you said, your logic applies to pregnancy by precum only. Precum does not exist in a vacuum, it is usually joined by semen.

[Snowy]

Precum does not exist in a vacuum, it is usually joined by semen.

 

I don't understand what you mean by this.

[mouseno4]

Think of it this way. If condoms give you 98% protection from BABIES!! what would you say if YOU ended up being one of those 2%?

 

Be safe. Use multiple protections.

[tresqua]

I don't understand what you mean by this.

 

I meant that your logic is flawed because as you stated, it only applies to precum, and precum rarely exists alone, unless there's no ejaculation that follows.

[mouseno4]

I meant that your logic is flawed because as you stated, it only applies to precum, and precum rarely exists alone, unless there's no ejaculation that follows.

 

It always exists for me. Just sayin.

[Snowy]

I meant that your logic is flawed because as you stated, it only applies to precum, and precum rarely exists alone, unless there's no ejaculation that follows.

 

What do you mean by precum rarely exists alone?

 

Most guys get precum during foreplay.

 

For me personally, I always get it.

[tresqua]

What do you mean by precum rarely exists alone?

 

Most of the time it's followed by ejaculate.