Need advice! He's leaving...

[NoheaMai]

Im not sure what to do. This guy I met back in May, and have been dating ever since, has just been incredible. He's thoughtful, talented, smart, passionate....everything I want. I can tell he really likes me based on what he's shared with me and the way he acts around me (never wants the date to end, always maintaining physical contact, calls me sweatheart, says he only wants to be with me, etc. ) Basically, he treats me like his girlfriend, but has never referred to me as that. Ive told him that I want something more serious, and he said "I'm all yours." Which is fantastic because he's never been in a relationship before and I guess it just makes me feel special. Anyway, the problem is that he's leaving for college in August about 1 1/2 - 2 hrs away while I'll still be a senior in high school. About the same time I asked for something serious he asked if I ment to try to stay together when he left. I'd be more than happy to try a long- distance relationship, but he said he originally planned to focus on school for the first year.

 

Should I just be having fun with this guy while the summer lasts?

 

Or am I setting myself up to be hurt?

[lukeb]

I see no reason why you couldn't just continue seeing this guy for the summer and stay in touch when he is off to college. He'll still be less than two hours away when he is away, that is not the other end of the globe. Any dating situation is setting you up for potential hurt, that doesn't mean you shouldn't date.

[DylanNotorious]

It's not like your setting yourself up to get hurt, it's just the way it goes. I think you will be hurt when he leaves, not that he will/has hurt you. It's up to you if you think a long distance relationship is the way to go, if you see it working then great. But you should spend the last remaining weeks with him and treasure them as you prepare to farewell him off to college.

[MadxMythMadame]

I'm going to be straight with you. It's really hard if you want something more serious since you've only started seeing each other. My boyfriend and I were in a long-distance relationship when we started college together, roughly the same distance you might be going through. After even two years of prior dating and as much as we loved each other (Yes, I'm going a little corny/cliche), it tore him a part for a while not seeing me, not knowing how I was doing (on top of that, neither of us had a car... yeah... it was hell...). He ended up going into the military, broke up with me, came back, and we ended up getting back together again - in a long-distance relationship. I have no regrets.

 

I'm not saying that you're going to got through what I went through. By all means, I've been through a highly lucky situation - that's the best scenario in my book. Just know that if you decide it not just fun and games anymore more, that bad things can happen, whether you want to believe so or not and you're going to worry and feel insecure all the time. If you can handle that - and it's helpful that you're secure with yourself - more power to you.

 

Honestly, you're young. Why ruin something that's starting off lovely with all those future thoughts? You're psyching yourself out for the worse when you can just be enjoying the time you have with him. So if you're worry of him hurting you, don't - easier said that done.

[chitown9]

It sounds like this is his first year of college. He is anticipating a lot and he really does not know what to expect. He is planning to devote a lot of time to his studies and thinks he may not have time for anything else. HE IS WRONG. Once he gets into the routine of his classes he will have some leisure time. Also, there are times when no school is in session for weeks at a time in the case of Easter and Christmas and breaks between semesters in which there is no school. He does not know this, but you know this because I am telling you now. I have been there, done that. He will find out by experience. So don't worry....it's all good.