parkbom Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 I met this guy online and his profile said that he only wants to meet new friends and he already has a girlfriend? I believe the friends he wants to make are girls because he can't go on that site to meet guys unless he was gay. If your straight you can only pick girls or guys but not both. I thought it was curious when I saw his facebook profile and it has a picture of his girlfriend and I went out with him on sat. I didn't read his profile until today that it said he wanted to meet new friends, and it never said he was single and looking for anything else... So why do they do that? Isn't it somewhat cheating on his girlfriend? He hung out with me, but isn't that still considered as cheating even though he just wants to meet new friends? even though its considered as a hang out and making new friends... Gosh I hate it when they do that and I was moded... next time I need to read their profile thoroughly before I make a fool out of myself... now I feel embarassed. I mean I didn't know he just want to make friends... I don't mind being his friend but it still not right to do to his girlfriend... This guy I dated has a friend who goes on multiple online dating sites but in that site he labeled himself as single and looking for short/long term dating... so what the hell is what with that when they already have a girlfriend? jerks... Link to comment
tresqua Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 He's looking for someone to fool around with but he's trying to look innocent in case his girlfriend finds his profile, odds are she's suspicious and looking for it. Link to comment
lukeb Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 It is only cheating if he is looking for sex. I'm not really going to go into what his motivations are, I can't really say why he was on that dating site. It wasn't kinda cheating or sorta cheating what he did with you. He didn't offer or ask for sex. Why do you think he was a jerk exactly? Because he didn't want to have sex with you? Link to comment
parkbom Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 Could be, but I saw his pictures of his girlfriend, they look good together, but why choose an online dating site to make new friend? I mean hanging out with a girl is sort of like cheating and I don't think he told his gf about it cuz if that was the case there be drama... and she probably rant on his facebook. It could be that he having problem with his gf but.. iono.. He just texted me to saying that maybe I can drive him next time... so there will be a next time... o.0 Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Yeah, I wouldn't be so hard on yourself with this one. I mean, you went on a DATING site to DATE. You don't expect to meet people who say they're looking for friends. Which he wasn't, anyhow. He was looking to cheat, as you well know. And he went on an OLD site, as many people believe they are ripe with people looking for just hookups and easy sex. Link to comment
lukeb Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 You don't expect to meet people who say they're looking for friends. Which he wasn't' date=' anyhow. He was looking to cheat, as you well know.[/quote'] How do you know that? Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 You don't expect to meet people who say they're looking for friends. Which he wasn't, anyhow. He was looking to cheat, as you well know. How do you know that? Umm....because people on a dating site are there to DATE. Not to make new friends. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 He's looking for someone to fool around with but he's trying to look innocent in case his girlfriend finds his profile, odds are she's suspicious and looking for it. I agree! Totally and completely. If you are in a relationship, looking for friendships with women is an underhanded way of seeking something on the side. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 It is only cheating if he is looking for sex. Park, If a guy you are dating says this about trolling for friends on a dating site, ruuuun from him. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 How do you know that? Umm....because people on a dating site are there to DATE. Not to make new friends. WRONG. 100%. Link to comment
parkbom Posted July 7, 2011 Author Share Posted July 7, 2011 hmm I can't say for certain that he is just on that site to find sex because he would have put activity partner on his profile like the other guys do and not just say make new friends. I met this other guy online and he is just on there to meet new people and I never met him before because we both don't drive yet, but he seems like a pretty cool person. He never talked about sex or anything and we call each other cute names and stuff, but there this one guy I talked to made me call him at 3am in the morning and he did mention about sex... I mean am there to date yes but also to meet new people and make friends, but I am single so that's different if someone already has a boyfriend/girlfriend but is meeting a stranger to hang out with them and make friends.. Do you think he might have another intention to do so? Btw he paid for everything because I didn't offer to pay, but I still find it strange though. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 So, you went on a date with a guy who has a girlfriend? Link to comment
BriarRose Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 He's looking for someone to fool around with but he's trying to look innocent in case his girlfriend finds his profile, odds are she's suspicious and looking for it. This^^^^^^^^^^^^^. Men don't join dating sites to make friends. Link to comment
lukeb Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 This^^^^^^^^^^^^^. Men don't join dating sites to make friends. Well the in the case here with the OP the guy she met up with wasn't looking or offering sex, so it would seem you are wrong in making this blanket statement. Link to comment
tresqua Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Well the in the case here with the OP the guy she met up with wasn't looking or offering sex, so it would seem you are wrong in making this blanket statement. Um...how do you know that? The only thing I read about this is quoted right here: I met this guy online and his profile said that he only wants to meet new friends and he already has a girlfriend? I believe the friends he wants to make are girls because he can't go on that site to meet guys unless he was gay. It doesn't say that the guy wasn't looking for or offering sex, all it says is that his PROFILE says that "he only wants to meet new friends". Only FEMALE friends to boot as per the dating sites requirements as outlined in the same quote above. Do you seriously think that people are 100% honest in their dating profiles? Do you believe in that expression that goes "I know it's true because I read it on the internet"? Link to comment
lukeb Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 No but it goes both ways if you don't know. Link to comment
Nirvana1986 Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 I think he is keeping his options open. You know... looking around to see if he can find someone "better". I had an ex, whom I met on a dating site. I suspended my profile as soon as I started getting into her... but she didnt. That was always on the back of my head and I would check every so often. At first she didnt get online at all, but for the last month of our relationships I noticed that she was getting on the dating site every couple of days or so, and even adding random people on facebook that I had seen around the website. I ended up breaking up with her because I just didnt feel comfortable knowing that she was out there still fishing. She got mad and said that I didnt trust her, but still.. that was my take on it; she was keeping her options open. I understand that we are just assuming here, but lukeb, how would you feel if you found out your gf was active on a dating website with the purpose of making friends? male friends? Link to comment
SarahC Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Lots of dating sites allow you to say what you are looking for {dating, casual sex, friendship, soul mate, etc.} and "friendship" is often one of the categories of people who sign up. If the guy didn't 'pitch' you for sex why stereotype him as a cheater? People make/have friends for lots of different reasons. Don't be so narrow minded. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Well the in the case here with the OP the guy she met up with wasn't looking or offering sex, so it would seem you are wrong in making this blanket statement. And how do you figure that? Because he didn't jump her bones on the first date? Come on, it's a no-brainer. Guy with gf post on DATING SITE that he is looking for "friends". The key words here being "dating site". Link to comment
BriarRose Posted July 7, 2011 Share Posted July 7, 2011 Exactly. Unless the guy is brain-dead, of course he is going to say he is looking for friends. Link to comment
parkbom Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 Well actually I saw on the dating site that there is an option for you to search for new friends, but on his profile it said I'm looking for.... Girls who like guys and looking for new friends, near me.. and their age. and you can also choose whether you want activity partner, long-term and short term dating, etc... it be awkward if he was looking for guys to make new friends haha, and the only option in the profile to choose is straight guys to choose is "girls who like guys" Link to comment
parkbom Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 Well actually I saw on the dating site that there is an option for you to search for new friends, but on his profile it said I'm looking for.... Girls who like guys and looking for new friends, near me.. and their age. and you can also choose whether you want activity partner, long-term and short term dating, etc... it be awkward if he was looking for guys to make new friends haha, and the only option in the profile to choose is straight guys to choose is "girls who like guys" Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 Looking for "girls who like guys" means he's looking for someone to possibly date Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted July 8, 2011 Share Posted July 8, 2011 I'm on a site but changed my page to say that I'm there for friends as there are never any guys that I am attracted to, and I would also like to make new friends to go to shows with since most of my friends have settled down. I genuinely do want to meet friends. There aren't any good sites where you can actually make new friends (other than maybe meetup, but the one local group I was on on there closed down). I also have a male friend who went on a dating site and was single, then got a girlfriend, and then just changed his page to say that he was looking for friends. He has texted me a couple of times when him and his girlfriend have been in my area to see if I wanted to meet up with them. So it doesn't necessarily mean he does want to cheat. He may also be shy and not have a big social circle and want to meet others. That said, I guess MAYBE he could want to keep his options open, but his girlfriend seems to be with him a lot, so I can't see him actually cheating with someone else. I would be wary if it was a guy I didn't know though. Link to comment
parkbom Posted July 8, 2011 Author Share Posted July 8, 2011 I think his girlfriend is still getting her education so its more like an hour and half drive and i don't think he has that much time go back n forth every week since he works. He seems like he has a lot of friends, but he does have a lot of guys friends that comments on his FB. maybe he is trying to find a girl friend to make friends with but why online dating? It's so suspicious and weird and I don't think his gf knows... I know I wouldn't want to tell my boyfriend about it because it just well you know dating sites can be meant for making friends, but why not find another website that is specifically for making friends i;'m sure there are plenty of them out there... where you can gather in a group of stranger and hang out, but hanging out with a girl or guy one one one, is just a little weird... Guys ans girls can't be friends because they may start to develop feelings for one another and it may be on sided or two sided and it could hurt their relationship with their girlfriend/boyfriend if they hang out with the opposite sex... iono... lol Link to comment
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