update profile on dating site. why not just man up if you want to break off!

[sweetharmony]

Ok. So i've been dating this guy for approx two months now, he sort of took a little break (without telling me...I know so early) because he wanted to be exclusive (after only 2 1/2 weeks) and I asked for patience...so he backed off needed space but was silent most of it. I tried to talk to him and we got back together (he told me he was so happy I reached out because he was confused) and then we agreed to be exclusive (not committed yet per say, just not dating others) to give it a real shot. Our chemistry is intense and we seem to get along really well, except maybe too intense too early. Our Friday date seemed to go great...he was gentleman...I stayed over (no sex) we went for brunch Saturday, he even asked me to help babysit my friends dog with me in a few weeks...we did have intense discussion and he had to leave then, we left kissed, goodbye and he said "I'll call you after holiday." no text on holiday or anything. He updated his profile Sunday on dating site and even changed his about me. I only saw this Tuesday. I was devastated but knew in my stomach when he left there was a coldness again.

 

He texted me last night saying "hey miss sweetharmony, how was your holiday? I'm climbed into bed, very sleepy. I emailed you a story about that article we read together." there no mention of getting together, etc...

 

I had resigned last night a few hours before the text to just move on b/c so much drama so early and this particular relationship was way too intense for me...back and forth hot and cold on both ends. in the end I did reply in the morning saying "I saw the article and I had a great holiday and hope he did too...etc..." because I'm not rude and don't want to play games...he doesn't know I logged into site or saw he updated profile.

 

I did like him a lot though and saw possible potential. I assume it's over, and perhaps he is trying to get me to break it off with him or just get the hint. I still feel at least he should have respect to let me know before updating profile. I know we can't control people... I understand feelings change overnight and he has every right to break it off, but do it with some respect. do I say something or just forget it?

[TwelveThirty]

There seem to be a lot going on, but I don't see how much it evolved in between you. It's as if the outside didn't match with the inside; what you think is different from how well it's going when you meet him.

 

Do you want to move on? Are you tired of this relationship? I don't think you are, so I suggest that you speak about it to make things clear, maybe going a bit deeper into your intentions, but then if it can't work, this means it's as far as it will ever go, so I wouldn't bother after.

 

Otherwise please say, if at least for the sake of the next person he will meet, because unless he's really being mean, maybe he doesn't know...

[tresqua]

I did reply in the morning saying "I saw the article and I had a great holiday and hope he did too...etc..." because I'm not rude and don't want to play games...he doesn't know I logged into site or saw he updated profile.

 

If you don't want to play games then why not tell him you logged onto the site and saw he updated his profile and why is he bothering you if he's not interested in an exclusive committed relationship?