Guys, I need your opinions

[lastcall23]

I have been having a FWB relationship with a guy that I was originally talking to in relationship terms for about 5 months until we called it off mutually because he just wasn't ready to make a committment and I wasn't completely sure I was ready to give up my single life either.

 

Anyway, we have been sleeping together the whole time and continue to. We talk about it frequently and I absolutely love being with him that way. My question is, will a guy keep sleeping with a girl even if he isn't attracted to her (in the physical sense) and even talk to her everyday not just about sex but just anything and everything in general??

 

Any perspective would be greatly appreciated, Thanks!!

[mad rabbits]

I'm not sure I understand the question.

 

If he's sleeping with you regularly I would say there is a 98% chance he is physically attracted to you.

 

Talking a lot indicates he is comfortable with you and likes you as a person, I would think.

 

None of this says anything about any other intentions he might or might not have.

[Nearbot]

If he's getting sex out of it, yes.

 

All cases are different, but I have a friend who is disgusted by this girl yet continues to talk to her because she's always willing to put out.

[happyfrank]

He finds you attractive. As a man you can't get it up otherwise without some kind of attraction.

[lavenderdove]

My experience is that men seem to hate 'dry spells' more than women do, so they will try to set up FWB situations more than women do. A woman is usually more likely to wait until they have feelings for the guy, or want to wait until they are in the context of a relationship or BF/GF before doing it, while guys will frequently set up a 'good enough for now' FWB or series of casual dates until they do meet a woman they see as GF material, then they stop the FWB and focus on the GF.

 

So he is obviously attracted enough to be FWB, and doesn't want a dry spell with no action at all, so he's willing to do FWB, but not interested in the responsbility or commitment of a GF (i.e., leaving his options open).

 

So I'd say he enjoys your company, but not enough to make you his GF, or not at this time in his life. Be careful though because his options are still wide open, and he might meet someone he considers GF material while you're still FWB and then he'll break it off with you. As long as that is fine with you, then forge onward. But don't take his continued FWB as any sign he has changed his mind about wanting you as a GF, until the tells you that's the case.

[Day_Walker]

I would say that men and women are capable of sleeping with a person they arent attracted to just because sex is better than no sex. As for this particular guy, that is something I cannot answer. I think that you have to take him at his word/actions that he is going to be committing to you and he is just happy with the FWB situation.

[lastcall23]

I'm not so concerned with losing him to someone else or a commitment from him. I don't mind the situation at hand. I'm just feeling insecure about myself, so sometimes I worry that I'm almost forcing him to sleep with me, even though it happens mutually and is phenomenal.

[Snowy]

I would say that men and women are capable of sleeping with a person they arent attracted to just because sex is better than no sex.

 

I would agree with this.

 

I'm not so concerned with losing him to someone else or a commitment from him. I don't mind the situation at hand. I'm just feeling insecure about myself, so sometimes I worry that I'm almost forcing him to sleep with me, even though it happens mutually and is phenomenal.

 

Don't worry, you're thinking too much.

 

If he's having sex with you, it means he's attracted to you and he wants it.

[mouseno4]

FWB. COMMITTMENT.

 

Why are those two words remotely close to each other in the OP's post?

[lastcall23]

Because it didn't start off as a friends with benefits situation. It had started off as a relationship with a committment. I was just giving a little backround on the situation to see if it helped anyone answer my actual question better.

[TheQuietGuy]

I'm just feeling insecure about myself, so sometimes I worry that ...

 

My opinion; nothing coming after that phrase is going to have a strong basis in reality. That is probably overgeneralized but is based on my experience knowing many women, including the one I'm married too.

 

"Many women" above does not equal many previous relationships; "knowing" above includes friends and coworkers as well. Just stating this overgeneralized from my overall experience with women.