to talk or not to talk?

[nasdaq]

So, my boyfriend and I broke up. We have been in a long distance relationship for nine months, and it was getting stale. I wasn't really all that happy to be honest. I'd have to wait 20-30 minutes for one response from him on skype because he'd be playing his video games, we wouldn't video chat, and our conversations were just us saying "hey, how are you, whats up?", and thats it. So when we both decided to break up, it wasn't that much of a surprise, things had been like this for a while. I kept trying to fix it, but he wouldn't respond.

 

When we are together, everything is perfect, and he's wonderful. He's kind, and completely supportive of me and I feel great when I'm around him. But unfortunately we can only see each other once a month, and I won't be able to see him all summer because he's competing around the world and won't be home.

 

So we decided to break up - it was mutual. I knew that it was coming, because I would be in school in Boston for four years, and he would be training in Albany for an indefinite amount of time. It just didn't make sense for us to stay together for all that time. Don't get me wrong, I love him very much, but our lives are pushing us in two different directions. We both acknowledged the fact that if we lived in the same place we would be together no questions asked.

 

I haven't been texting him lately, but we have been talking some, and he says he still loves me, and will always be 'drawn' to me and think of me. I feel the same way. He wanted to know what I wanted to do, if I wanted to have an open relationship or whatever, but I don't. Then he said that he started talking to another girl. This is three days after we broke up. He has a profile on a dating site, and he's been updating it and everything. It really makes me upset to see him move on so quickly, and even though he says he still loves me and calls me babe, I don't really know if he does.

 

Things just hurt

Basically what this whole thing was getting around to is what should I do? Keep talking to him as friends, or leave him alone and let him do whatever he wants.

[chelzee]

I can understand how you are hurt about this as you guys had good points in the relationship and he made you happy. In my opinion, i don't see anything wrong with talking with him as friends - as you both decided on a mutual break up. But seeing how you are hurt right now, it might be best to give it some time and let him go and if it is meant with you two, things will work out. Speaking from personal experiences, it is hard to be friends with ex's that you really really cared about, because eventually you do see them with other people and hear about it. So sometimes it is best to let go and clear your thoughts.