Is it normal to bounce from feeling good to bad

[hockeydfndr14]

Is it normal to have really good days where you find yourself feeling 'over it' but other days where you feel like crap and miss your ex? Most of the time I feel over it but other times like tonight I feel like crap.

[Unwanted]

Definitely normal. I feel it all the time. And it's crap because you can be feeling on top of the world, like nothing can destroy you.

 

Then there are days where I just feel like eating a whole packet of Maltesers in my bed and sleeping all day (which I did all day today).

 

You just have to take one day at a time. Don't beat yourself up too much about it, because that will prolong your 'bad days'.

 

Tomorrow is a new day right? =)

[hello678]

Definitely.

 

I find its best just to let it pass rather than focus on convincing yourself out of it.

 

Some days I feel good, some I feel bad, some I feel really angry.

 

All that matters is that you don't contact them and let it go like wave.

[rkw]

Yep totally normal. I'd been doing amazingly well for a couple of weeks, then yesterday a friend managed to work into a conversation that my ex had taken a girl out for tea. Even though she's apparently just visiting from a distant city and a relationship is unlikely, it made me feel pretty rubbish for the rest of the day and this morning too (especially since the update wasn't asked for, but along the lines of "Guess what?! A went on a date the other night with a girl from Perth!"). But I figure this is just a small setback and I'm actually feeling much better again tonight. Don't try to fight your feelings, I imagine it like I'm on a wavy ocean and some days I'm on a peak, others in a trough, but if I keep going forward, eventually it will settle down.

[motleylou]

Ya it's normal and I'm going through it right now. So days I feel like I can get by just fine and rarely think of her and then bam all of a sudden I feel like the breakup just happened. Normally for me I realize that there is some trigger that sets me back. We used to watch hockey all the time, so sometimes if I here news about out team it will remind me of her and how much fun we had going to and watching the games together and it gets me down put it passes quicker with time. I'm 2 months post breakup and 1 month NC. I actually just had a trigger when I went out on my first date since the breakup. For whatever reason all I could think of as her throughout the date.

 

Like others are saying instead of fighting your feelings just except that right now is a bad time and that it will pass. Just try and occupy yourself with something that will keep your mind from dwelling and over analyzing, but accept that your sad and it will pass and gets easier to deal with in time.

[nekoxchaos]

yes it happens all the time, I used to be alot worse before but as time went by I learned to control those feelings. Yes I still have days when I miss that person and there are days now where I can go on with my life without having it bother me but its important to know everything is impermanent, our good times pass as well as our bad times so its just important to live in the "now" and not beat yourself over having to miss someone, acknowledge the feeling and as others have said .... let it pass like a wave.

[hockeydfndr14]

How long does this usually last though? We broke up like 3 weeks ago and I don't have time for this. I really want to just move on with everything. Every time this happens I start over analyzing the breakup again. I'm not drawn to tears or anything like that but its just a pain in the ass lol.