Not sure what to do.

[bulls]

Hello.

 

I feel somewhat silly talking to people about my relationship online. I'm not one to go and whine to everyone about my problems, but in this case I just feel so alone that i want to talk to someone. Something to keep in your mind is that I am a christian and while i do love this girl, if God told me to leave her i would. I love God more than anything.

 

I've been with this girl for about 3 years. It was my first time ever dating anyone as was the same for her. We started dating when i was a freshman in college and she was a junior. I could not ask for a better relationship. We go to the same church, we see each other 3+ times a week. We are not some stupid "Junior High" couple. Without getting into too much detail i just want to tell you a little bit about us so you know that its not some stupid relationship to me. She was my first kiss, my first make out, my first date, my first everything. We truly love each other, and go together like i never thought i would with a girl. We are very mature in the way we love each. Even if we have a fight we talk about it and try to get things back to normal.

 

We are very serious about spending the rest of our lives together.

 

Yesterday when I woke up she sent me a text (out of the blue) and told me she intends on going to a school in Houston, TX (about 150 miles away from where we live now.) This was very confusing to me because, although she has been talking about going to school again to get her masters, she hadn't told me she was actually deciding right this instant to leave. It completely blindsided me. She also sent another text that said she would like to talk later (in the day.)

 

So when I got done with some chores around my house i texted her back to let her know i was ready to talk. She didn't reply for the rest of the day and hasn't replied since. I really won't get to see her in person for another day, but I don't know what to think. I feel like I'm getting depressed. I don't want to work, I don't want to talk to my friends, I don't want to go anywhere or do anything. I just want to sit on my bed and stare at the wall. She means everything to me. She gives me reason to wake up in the morning and be happy. I don't care about anything but her. I don't feel like God is asking me to let her go, but this is so hard to know what to do.

 

Any serious advice would be appreciated. How to deal with someone being far away. How we should stay in touch (if at all.)

[chelzee]

hi bulls, a long distance relationship takes a lot of trust and determination. I can see how you are willing to give your all in the relationship and that is what it takes. As far as your situation goes, there could be many more times like this that you might experience, due to the long distance. What I'm confused about is have you both spoken about the future of your relationship or has she since responded?