I was too slow. She has a boyfriend now...

[SicFounder]

I posted about this days ago right here.

 

Pretty much, I have a crush on a girl at Subway that's really cute and was flirting with me, and I her. Well, days ago I decided to finally make something of a move that showed my interest in her, unfortunately she wasn't working. So the next day after that, I noticed she had a hickie and completely bailed on my plan.

 

Today, I went there at the usual time in my usual work uniform and she was really happy and then mentioned her boyfriend. Ouch. Not only that, she actually told me that they'd only been together for about a week. Super ouch. So, I was slow in my making my move. I'm still where I started so no biggie. And I'd like to say I'm happy for her, she seemed really jubilant and relaxed.

 

Now, I'm starting to wonder why I'm always so slow with these things. I knew from day one I should have totally made a move to show her my interest. I know it has a lot to do with past relationships I've had. So I decided to not rush getting into this one like I've done with others that always end so horrible. I guess I just need some supporting words cause, frankly, I feel like right now. Mostly because I had her, so to speak, in my hands and I let her jump away to another guy because of my insecurities.

[Ariel85]

Translation: if I were to tell a guy that I'd been with my BF for a WEEK, it's because of two reasons, 1) I want to dig him for dragging his heels and not asking me out sooner or, 2) I want him to know there's still a chance, since it's new.

 

I think you should go back in, acting all fool of yourself, and ask her how it's going with this guy, and then say you're bummed to find out she has a BF, because you were really hoping to take her out.

 

See how she reacts to that. Don't be surprised if in another week, she tells you things didn't work out with him, and she's free.

[BlueMilk]

^^ I have to agree with what Ariel85 said. Not because she might dump the guy for you but I think its good to tell her anyways for the sake of future options/possibilities. Or you might get a free sub for having a broken heart. Either way its a win win situation.

[SicFounder]

That makes sense. I thought it was odd she included how long she'd been with the guy without me even asking. Actually she told me how her day was going without me even asking altogether.

 

Thanks Ariel.

And thanks Blue, it's always nice to have a supporting opinion.

[Ambiguous X]

Don't assume cause someone is flirting with you it means they will say "yes" to date you. Many times its a test/trap.

[chitown9]

 

I think you should go back in, acting all fool of yourself, and ask her how it's going with this guy, and then say you're bummed to find out she has a BF, because you were really hoping to take her out.

 

I agree with this. I think the original poster meant to say "acting all full of yourself". Yes, you should act self-assured, confident when you have this encounter.

[Ariel85]

I agree with this. I think the original poster meant to say "acting all full of yourself". Yes, you should act self-assured, confident when you have this encounter.

 

LOL. Yes, indeedy I meant FULL, not fool. Sic is exceptionally bright - wouldn't happen anyhow.

[SicFounder]

Yeah, I figured you meant FULL, lol.

[Ms Darcy]

Don't feel bad ... next girl you'll pounce on.

[SicFounder]

Don't feel bad ... next girl you'll pounce on.

 

lol, maybe. I work a lot and at a hotel, so if I meet anyone there, they'll be out of town by the next day. But who knows, hopefully I'll bump into someone awesome.

[butterfly1]

Hey!!!!!

 

I agree with the other posts. This girl MIGHT be just testing you, however I definitely think its worth a shot. Lifes too short!!

 

The fact that she has gone out of her way to tell you makes it quite obvious she wants you to know for some reason. If she is just trying to make you jealous, then question yourself why doing so is so important to her.

 

Like one of the previous posters have said, just make it casual and say " Shame youve got a new man I was hoping to take you out myself!". Make it casual and jokey, and see how you go from there.

 

Just keep in mind though that you dont know this girl that well, and se may tell her new boyfriend that somebody is chatting her up at work to make HIM jealous. You dont know how he is going to react so be careful.

But yes if its what you want, go in, make sure you look clean and smart and drop it out casually!

Keep us posted!!!!

[SicFounder]

I went in today and for whatever reason I just couldn't do it. In my mind I keep thinking "what if her boyfriend finds out some how and he's the defensive, jealous type?" Also, I think she's dating one of her coworkers. At least the way they were talking to each other seemed pretty intense compared to the way I talk to my coworkers of the opposite sex.

 

I've had too many bad run-ins with boyfriends, that I really would not like to deal with unnecessary drama. But who knows, maybe soon I'll just confess it anyways and hopefully it'll produce positive feedback. I'll still read any suggestions on how I should go about.

[MakeItCount]

Is the coworker a big guy? If not, just do it. If he's a new bf, and acts all jealous and insecure, it's better for you haha. I'd still say do it. Unless he's a beast.

[Stay_home]

I think it's a trap.

 

If she liked you that much, she could've approached you and asked if you'd be interested in going out for a coffee or catching a movie. I mean, how hard is that to do? Besides, if she's just simply dating this guy as a Mr. Right now, that isn't a very good sign that she may be all that stable herself. Either way, I think you should just be her friend and NEXT time when you meet someone or if she does happen to become single again, then make your move. Don't be a hater, though.

[SicFounder]

Today I went in for lunch and thought it was her day off. Anyways, I got my stuff and she asked what I was doing tonight. I told her nothing, maybe working. She said she wasn't doing anything, so I decided to just ask when she got off and if she wanted to do something since we were both without plans. She said maybe... but gave me her number anyways and told me to text her when I could, which I have now that I'm home. Something tells me there's a damn good chance I'm not going to receive anything back.

 

The way I see it, if we do get to spend some time together, at least I'll get to know her and see if her and I are compatible.

[Ariel85]

And something tells me her "boyfriend" is really named George Glass, ergo, he never existed.

 

Good work, Sic.

[SicFounder]

And something tells me her "boyfriend" is really named George Glass, ergo, he never existed.

 

Good work, Sic.

 

I wouldn't be congratulating yet. She got off work nearly 2 and a half hours ago and still hasn't texted me back. I have a damn good feeling she's not going to text at all.

 

 

But I also have this feeling that she may have deleted my text after she replied and didn't save my number. I know I've done that in the past. But I'm not sure if I should send a text, or for that matter, what kind of text so I don't look like a creeper or something.

[SicFounder]

And I was right about holding off anything.

 

She decided to make other plans. But invited out with her roommate and boyfriend -_-

I guess she's not really interested in me and is just a really nice person. I feel pretty dumb that I could read someone that wrong - like entirely.

 

I declined. Now I have to receive weird questions or awkward looks tomorrow when I go to lunch. Maybe I should find somewhere else to go for lunch now.

 

Thanks anyways everyone.

 

 

ALSO

I think she may be trying to set me up with her roommate, whom is female. I never do blind dates, especially if they're set up by someone I hardly even know.