Rant. Doing good. Not great - just good.

[biggestdork]

You know what guys... I still think about her -- Like just now -- and thats why Im on here.

 

The ride is rough man, so hang on real tight or you might fall off.

Once you get to the end, like roller coasters, you're back at the beginning. A new Beginning.

You can get off. Enjoy other things. And some of you might end up back on the ride again - but this time you will know what to do.

Its going to be rough just like last time, but it gets easier.

 

Looking back it was an interesting ride. A ride I needed to take.

Ive been letting myself slip into the dark side lately, and that tells me that recovery is not easy.

It is something that I need to put in extra effort and keep at it. I have to change my life for the better -- forever.

 

Nobody said it was easy.

 

I know for some of you, talking about it to people you know might be uncomfortable. Drop me a message. Ill be glad to talk.

I wont say Im qualified to give advice - but I went through it, and Im willing to listen

[whysoalone]

I had a friend who is female, was the most supportive person the day I was dumped. She ended up being dumped by her BF that night.. 12 hours after me, poor girl. All I did was support her then, took my mind off of it.

 

If anyone is willing to chat, people should take it.

[Danny77]

Sup buddy!!!

 

I'm at the "I feel good" stage too!!!

It's been a relentless 3 months of absoulte pain and not one person to help me.

All I had was me, and ENO.

I'm not even kiddin!!!

I started NC from the beginning and didn't break it once.

SOooooooo helpful that was!

 

Anyway, I heard from her yesterday for the first time and she is having problems with the death of a friend and stuff.

My heart goes out to her but if anything it just made me think "wow, you've got sone bad s**t going on right now".

It put so much distance between us right then and there that I actually feel free today.

I actuall feel good again.

I realized she's got her own stuff goin on and is not connected to me any more so I'm not connected to her!

 

Anyways just wanted a virtual high five as it's a great feeling.

Sure sure I'll think about her again in the next hour, I'll even be sad tomo morning as we all know the mornings suck b**ls right.

But now, I feel just..... Good, and good to me is great in comparison to the last three months.

 

 

Thanks for ur post as I needed to get that out and it gave me a great excuse to.

[Meriem]

I wish I could get there, I've been feeling good for three days then I fell off the wagon, I felt so much pain as if it just happened yesterday, as if I'm guna have to start over it's driving me nuts not knowing that I CAN handle it..

[Danny77]

I wish I could get there, I've been feeling good for three days then I fell off the wagon, I felt so much pain as if it just happened yesterday, as if I'm guna have to start over it's driving me nuts not knowing that I CAN handle it..

 

how do you fall off the wagon?

[Meriem]

how do you fall off the wagon?

 

I start getting nostalgic, I start being in denial that it happened, I hold on to the thought of reconciliation.. etc it really sucks

[Danny77]

Ah yeh,

that does suck.

Try to remember the times where you had doubt in the relationship.

Try to remember when they were not givin you as much as you deserved.

It's so hard I know.

It's like, how do you think about anything else with any interest to you?

 

Try not to be a victim inthis too much.

Take control and say "you know what, even if they came back tomorrow then I'd say NO"

and mean it!

Would you wanna go through all this a second time?

 

The person who loved you is gone now.

You can only hurt yourself holding on.

Let go.

Take control of your life and let go.

It will be your choice.

 

Have you tried reading a book?

Some say it helps loads as it takes away ur mind for sone time.

 

Also, remember this.

If you had lots of things to occupy your mind then you'd get over them sooo much quicker!

So in fact it's just your situation that's holding you back.

NOT THEM.

[biggestdork]

ENA was helpful to me too. Though I still felt like I was alone the entire time.. I thought nobody understood me, but the truth was that people were telling me things I didnt want to hear. They gave me advice and I didnt listen. I did so many stupid things since I got dumped.. Most of which I am not proud of. Am I a bad person? Probably - we cant all be good right?

 

For most of us, it hurt so bad we couldnt even imagine what it would be like to be happy again.

Just let it out. All of it.

Then start to believe in yourself.