How long do I have to wait!?

[MzTeeq]

Hey everyone just want to vent, Im feeling abit depressed, Im over waiting for Mr right! I feel like he dont exisit! I dont have high expectations anymore either! I just want someone with the same mind frame, not to much to ask for right? I sick of dating, sick of going out and meeting people, sick of friends trying to hook me up with their single friends!!! I only found out that my ex of almost 2yrs was still married!!!!!!!! Which just adds to my depression!!! I just might turn into a cat lady! I wish I didnt care so much so I could be happier.

[anon_a_mouse]

I know how you feel. IMO, there's many people out there that we can match up with - so there's nothing to worry about - though my opinion now is that both people have to be in the right place in themselves - i.e. love themselves, happy with who they are etc.. for either person to connect with someone. I'm done looking or waiting for someone until I've fixed myself first..

[HappyFlow]

I have a complex relationship thing going on as well, but I never had to look for it. That is what I learned, start finding friends before you start searching for boyfriends. Before I knew it, I was saying the "I love you's" and such before long. I just hope it progresses well... Well, my belief up til then is to take your time with someone, bond with them. If it isn't a good friendship, then drop it.

[Batya33]

What I learned was keeping my pity parties as short as possible, keeping a positive attitude about people and "men" in particular and being proactive in becoming the right person and putting in the effort - time, sometimes money, emotional investment - to be in environments where I was more likely to meet like-minded people, including women who potentially could introduce me to men. I'm not sure if it worked in the sense that it took me about 23 years to be and find the right person but I had some interesting, fun, insightful times along the way ;-)

[Leftright]

A lot of us are here for the same reasons, and trust me, I know how you feel, It's looking like ill be living the solo life for a long time if not forever too. But Don't get depressed over it, just take a nice break from it, and take this time to get to know yourself more. Also, try to just enjoy yourself, and celebrate the best thing about being single, the fact that you can do whatever you want, whenever you want. There are literally millions of singles out there wondering the same thing right now. It just takes some of us a bit longer than others.

 

-LR

[Batya33]

I can do whatever I want whenever I want because I am married with a family -both of which were things I wanted. I felt restricted when I was single because I didn't feel right going ahead and having a child on my own and I wasn't doing what I wanted to be doing. I don't crave the option to do "whatever I want whenever I want" because I always either went to school or was employed and wanted things that way despite the "restrictions" on freedom.