When do I call, should I call?

[CarnelianButterfly]

Today at work, a guy gave me his number. I was terrified! I generally don't have problems with attractive men being customers at the store, I help them and go on. He commented that he liked my bracelet, I said thank you. I'm used to comments about my jewelry, but it made me a little nervous because he was very handsome. I was adding up his purchases and thinking about the commission I was going to get when he says "you have a beautiful complexion". I know I turned bright red blushing, he then apologizes for being embarrassing and I told him not to worry about it and then I told him I thought he was very cute. He smiles and is blushing, too. I'm shaking as I hand him his change and he comments about how he can't even get it in his wallet. He looks like he's about to go and then asks if I have a boyfriend, I say no. He asks if he can give me his number and then he hands me his business card. I am jumping out of my skin nervous, but I take it. I have no idea what I said after that, I'm sure I wished him a good afternoon and thanked him, but I was so nervous.

 

Now comes the bad part. My boss had some sales going on the items that the guy had purchased, those sale prices did not register when I scanned them. I didn't know what items were on sale. The guy comes back because the items were for a gift and after speaking to someone else, was told to get a different color. My boss is there (my boss is an ass, always treats me very badly). As soon as he looks at the recipe he starts blaming me for not taking care of the sale prices. The price issues are my bosses fault, he is completely in control of all that programming and doesn't tell anyone the start or expiration dates of sales. He won't tell us, he says we don't need to know because we will tell customers and he'll lose money because they wait for a sale. So, now I look like an idiot.

 

I don't even know if I should call. I'm mortified because I made the mistake. Even if I were to call, I wasn't sure when. I was thinking tomorrow evening, I don't want to rush it, but don't want to wait too long. I'm still so nervous.

[Daligal83]

I say call tomorrow afternoon maybe. You have nothing to lose. And you won't know what could be if you never try. I know it's nervewracking...but if it doesn't work out, then you are exactly where you are right now. Nothing lost.

[mouseno4]

Making a mistake when a guy/girl approaches you is actually flattering. It means you (the person doing the approaching) are having an effect on them. Pretty sure he knew you were interested, otherwise i doubt he would have given you his number.

[Blue Skittles]

Start looking for a new job, and wait a day or two before calling him.

[Kitkat973]

I'd personally open with a text, just because it's non-intrusive and less likely to be awkward.

[Batya33]

I would call and be lighthearted and friendly - and I would call tomorrow as Daligal suggested. I think it's a bad idea to text -that to me would convey too little interest in getting to know him. Good luck!

[CarnelianButterfly]

Making a mistake when a guy/girl approaches you is actually flattering. It means you (the person doing the approaching) are having an effect on them. Pretty sure he knew you were interested, otherwise i doubt he would have given you his number.

I just worry about it because the difference was a fair amount of money. I suppose we were both not paying attention since he didn't notice the price jump either, most customers get hopping mad if the total isn't on the penny to their estimation.

Start looking for a new job, and wait a day or two before calling him.

I really do want a different job, I'm tired of being treated like an idiot because of his lack of communication. This is not the first time.

 

 

Should I apologize for the mistake when I call?

[mouseno4]

As for the job... well that is up to you. Not really my area to be honest. I was referring only to the guy.

[DN]

Call, apologise for the error and say you would like to make it up to him by buying him a coffee/drink/meal (choose one of the three, not all of them)

[Ariel85]

I'm always against pursuing men, so if it were me, and I got dropped a number and didn't give him mine instead, I would text him and say, "great meeting you on FRI! Hope the (items) are working out. Just a quick text so you have my number. Look forward to hearing from you soon!"

[CarnelianButterfly]

Call, apologise for the error and say you would like to make it up to him by buying him a coffee/drink/meal (choose one of the three, not all of them)

This is most likely what I do, I think coffee would be best, I decided not to mix alcohol with dating, since I become intoxicated quickly.

[chitown9]

Keep us posted.

[putter65]

Another story about a woman liking a man because of his looks. I see a pattern developing.

 

Not knocking you, give him a ring. You can't go wrong. A few deep breaths before your call and you'll be fine !

[CarnelianButterfly]

I called today! It was a great conversation, we talked for almost an hour He's very sweet, smart, and seems to be a down to earth guy. I asked him to meet for coffee on Tuesday.

 

We have a couple of hobbies in common and went to the same University, so I'm looking forward to meeting him to talk more.

[Daligal83]

Yay! That's great

[CarnelianButterfly]

Another story about a woman liking a man because of his looks. I see a pattern developing.

 

Not knocking you, give him a ring. You can't go wrong. A few deep breaths before your call and you'll be fine !

Considering the last 4 men I've dated had Master's degrees or greater, I think that comment is uncalled for. I am a human and not beyond physical attraction, but intelligence and personality are far more important a traits. If he doesn't have those, it won't matter to me how attractive he is, I won't see him again.

[DN]

Well done and good luck.

[chitown9]

 

We have a couple of hobbies in common and went to the same University, so I'm looking forward to meeting him to talk more.

 

Same university? It is a small world. You have hobbies in common...how wonderful! I hope this develops into something big....chi

[putter65]

attraction gives you a chance, it's the same for both men and women. Anybody who disagree's is lying. Of course after the initial interest sparked by attraction, personality comes into it.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Well done and good luck.

Thanks, I'm looking forward to seeing him.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Instead of coffee we had dinner. It was great. He's very sweet and charming. He has an adorable 9 year old son, he showed me some pictures on his phone, he looks just like his dad. I really enjoyed the evening and hope to see him again.

 

I am a little worried that he won't want to see me more, though. Religion is important to him, but I'm more spiritual. I mentioned this to my friend, she is engaged to a Minister, but is like me, she said it could cause some moments of tension, but if both people are willing to accept the other, then it can work.

[chitown9]

I think that he will want to see you again. It sounds like he opened up his life to you; a very good sign

[CarnelianButterfly]

I think that he will want to see you again. It sounds like he opened up his life to you; a very good sign

I hope so, he seems like a good guy. He gave me a wood vase he made, it is so beautiful.

[CarnelianButterfly]

I sent him a text Friday and we chatted a little, but I haven't heard back from him since then, so I guess I wasn't what he was looking for

 

I'd like for once to be pursued. I'm tired of being the one to do all the chasing. It seems like every time I go out with a guy I'm responsible for keeping things going. I feel like I don't know whether they really want to go out with me or not. It would be nice to get some clear signals for once. I'd appreciate guys at least telling me they weren't interested instead of just disappearing.

[Ginger1]

I don't recommend the text- I'm just anti and I think it leads down a weird road. But I would call- especially if he is cute. Do something like coffee/midday though if possible. Don't worry about the sales thing.