LN1987 Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 I am really having a hard time. My life is going ok, I am doing lots of things, but my ex seems to be in a whole new world. When we were together he seemed to not be the best communicator, wouldn't organise his own time, I pretty much did it all. He did not deal with conflict well, and was down right mean to me by the end. Now he has always been friendly, but it seems he is much better at making friends, going out socialising, having fun, than ever dealing with things that come up. Are some people just like this? He comes accross as a really great fun and nice person, but after a few months with me he started to be mean and put me down. Why/How can he come accross as the best guy in the world to others, but when things get tricky or a bit deeper, he becomes quite different? Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Cos he's human?? No one can be "on" all the time. The being mean thing is intolerable to say the least, but most of the people I know resent responsibility and having to be organised. But yeh, they're definitely a lot of fun when the party's goin' on. He sounds somewhat "normal" to me... maybe just not bf material.... Link to comment
LN1987 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Share Posted July 1, 2011 Why would people resent responsibility? Yeh I just meant he comes accross as so easy going and awesome, but he was hard with me from about 3 months in... we lasted 18 months... But I just meant he always seems so happy with other people who he hardly knows now. Link to comment
dramallama Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Why would people resent responsibility? Yeh I just meant he comes accross as so easy going and awesome, but he was hard with me from about 3 months in... we lasted 18 months... But I just meant he always seems so happy with other people who he hardly knows now. It could have been that he knew he didn't want to be with you. Some people don't want to have to end relationships, so instead they are asses, and they will dump you in the end anyway to find someone that wouldn't put up with their crap. Link to comment
TakingtheBlame Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Why would people resent responsibility? Yeh I just meant he comes accross as so easy going and awesome, but he was hard with me from about 3 months in... we lasted 18 months... But I just meant he always seems so happy with other people who he hardly knows now. It takes more effort to put on a mask with someone you see on a regular basis, like a girlfriend or boyfriend, than it does to do so with people you see more sporadically, like friends. Many people put on a nice, friendly facade to attract people to them and to surround themselves with people, but show their true colors to their significant others because they are together so much more often, and because they owe a significant other more. Link to comment
LN1987 Posted July 1, 2011 Author Share Posted July 1, 2011 Do you think it may be an age/maturity thing? He seems to be the life of the party when he is out now (he just turned 22, was 20 when we met) but seemed to get mad at me all the time and was "hard" on me in many ways. I think I am pretty similar in many social situations, but he really seemed to not be able to maintain effective communication with me, especially during any sort of conflict or argument.... Link to comment
dramallama Posted July 1, 2011 Share Posted July 1, 2011 Do you think it may be an age/maturity thing? He seems to be the life of the party when he is out now (he just turned 22, was 20 when we met) but seemed to get mad at me all the time and was "hard" on me in many ways. I think I am pretty similar in many social situations, but he really seemed to not be able to maintain effective communication with me, especially during any sort of conflict or argument.... I think he's just a jerk. Nothing to do with age. Link to comment
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