Did it mean anything? Am I reading too much into it?

[lovingdreams]

So I broke things off with a guy that I really liked about two months ago. I won't go into details about the situation but there were circumstances going on that were making things really difficult for us and we were pretty much forced to break things off. I actually broke things off with him but trust me it hurt like hell and I regretted it so much. I could tell he was hurt too because when we were together he would tell me how much he liked me, that he missed me when he didn't see me or talk to me, etc. He even admitted to having had a crush on me for about a year (maybe more) before he actually came out with it and told me how he felt. We were together for 6 months. We live in the same neighborhood and during the first few days of our break up we happened to see each other around pretty often. He would pretty much avoid contact with me. He wouldn't look at me, talk to me, etc. At times, he would just give me a polite hello. I asked him if he was angry with me and he told me that he understood everything and that he wasn't angry at all (which I wasn't sure if I believed). Anyway, after things ended we had no contact with one another although at one point I did let him know that I wanted to talk about things in person but we never really got the chance to do so (long story as to why). Like I said before, it has been about two months since things ended and now just a while ago, we saw each other in the street. This was the first time we had seen each other in weeks. We saw each other and held prolonged eye contact for a few seconds then he greeted me by saying hi in a soft tone of voice (almost a whisper) as I responded back to him. I wanted to talk to him but we were both on the go, headed in different directions, and there were so many people around us. It wasn't the best time to talk. I know I'm probably reading a little too much into this but the thing is we were surrounded by people and yet he managed to spot me out and not only make eye contact with me but prolong it (he did this pretty often when we were together). This was coming from the same guy who at first could barely look me in the eye after things ended. But when we were together we always did the eye contact thing. So I was wondering what do you guys think about this? Do you think the prolonged eye contact meant anything or no?

[DN]

It's really hard to advise without knowing the details of why you broke up but almost impossible without knowing what it is you want from him. For instance, do you want him back?

[lovingdreams]

It's really hard to advise without knowing the details of why you broke up but almost impossible without knowing what it is you want from him. For instance, do you want him back?

 

Yeah, you're right. I should've added those details in my original post. I apologize. See, I'll be 20 years old this month but, I'm a college student who still lives at home. This guy is older than me and of a different race. Things that my dad doesn't approve of. At first, my dad didn't know that this guy & I were seeing each other but, at one point he became extremely suspicious that something was going on. I think he actually knew about us because his efforts to keep me away from him were suffocating-to the point where I thought that it'd be in both of our interests (mine and the guy's) to finally put an end to all of this drama. I was just tired of everything I had to go through to simply get to see him. I was always willing to see him though. However, I also love my dad very much and I didn't want to jeopardize my relationship with him. I know I'm an adult and that I'm capable of making my own decisions but when I broke up with this guy, I did it out of frustration and fear and I'll admit that it was an immature move. As for do I want him back? Yes, I do. I know I messed up but if given a second chance, I'd be willing to do whatever I can to keep things good between us (including confronting my dad). The guy I was with knew that I liked him and he knew what the circumstances were throughout the entire time. So, in reality neither one of us wanted to break up in the first place.

[DN]

I suggest you contact him, ask him to talk and see if he is interested in trying again.

 

If he says yes and you do start a relationship, don't confront your Dad aggressively. Try telling him that you are dating this guy, that you really like him and ask for his love and support.

[lovingdreams]

I honestly don't plan on confronting my dad aggressively if I end up getting back together with this guy. I plan to do it calmly. Of course, before all of that, I'd have to find out where I stand with this guy. Thank you for your advice.