what's it like being that beautiful?

[Ivory_Tower]

So, are you going to tell them what it's like being beautiful? lol

 

Well...

 

To be fair I never said I was beautiful! I think I look pretty when I wear make up because it makes my features stand out. Sleep helps, too.

[NightLily]

To answer your original question..

 

I don't know for sure what I would be described as since I have heard it all (between cute/pretty/hot or whatever) but I think I have the type of looks that just screw me over if anything. I am 5'9" and a bit and find I intimidate many girls based off of that alone. Some guys as well. Other than opening some doors for me in the business world I can't think of any social ways looks have done me much good. I'm either not very good looking or just.. don't notice?

 

I also get a lot of jealous and bitter girls at my throat when they don't even know me at all. Can't say that is a good thing!

[Ivory_Tower]

I also get a lot of jealous and bitter girls at my throat when they don't even know me at all. Can't say that is a good thing!

 

Ohhh! I hear you. I have this problem often and I don't assume it's because I'm a beautiful girl either. I know I haven't always been pretty.

[Brig]

I think I'm a good looking guy but I'm not sure it has made my life any easier as some of my past threads will attest

[NightLily]

Ohhh! I hear you. I have this problem often and I don't assume it's because I'm a beautiful girl either. I know I haven't always been pretty.

 

I actually know a few times in the past it was fueled by looks. They were in competition but I wasn't aware I was taking part lol. Only found out later when mutual friends or there then ex's told me how often the fumed about me. Keep in mine, these are people I absolutely don't know! Oooh weellllzz..

[Jaydedgirl]

I get stares from people when i go out anywhere. I have been told im really pretty and cute too. But the stares makes me feel uncomfortable alot. I also dislike when people are jealous of my beauty and they tend to make a bad comment especially women do this.

[chitown9]

Yes, I have been told I am beautiful. Once a boyfriend told me that I was beautiful and the fact that I didn't seem to be impressed with myself made me even more beautiful in his eyes. I knew what he meant because I knew a man I worked with that I thought was handsome, but once his character became known he was no longer attractive to me. On the opposite side, I once knew a man that was not attractive initially, but once I came to know him he was attractive to me. His imperfections were adorable to me.

 

As to whether my appearance has been a help or a hindrance, I would say that for the most part it was extremely helpful to me during my lifetime for many reasons.

[-Sanguine-]

I have been told from guys I have dated that I am beautiful.. quote from one "one of the prettiest faces I've seen", "that I had the perfect body type".. but I am not sure if I agree or believe them. Sometimes I feel insecure about my looks and it makes me question their comments. I am not really insecure because I do think I am attractive, just maybe I don't see into it quite as much as guys do. Maybe that's because I grew up feeling like I was not attractive at all. I had glasses, braces, and I was shy so I didn't get much attention. Then I got rid of the glasses, had straight teeth and I became more confident, dressed well and took good care of myself... so it's kind of a strange feeling going from awkward to "beautiful" and I often second guess it as I still feel like that shy girl in the 7th grade sometimes.

[Sweetkisses22]

I've been told im beautiful on many occasions but I do not believe it. I think I am a good looking girl bit I have so many insecurities. People think people who are beautiful have it much easier. I do not think so. I feel the need to look myvbest everyday because of I don't I may not fit everyones perception of me. Its even harder to find a man who will love you for you and not what you look like. So many guys just want a trophy wife with no brains.

[Sweetkisses22]

Exactly how I feel. I was the ugly duckling when I was a kid. I was made fun of and everything. I grew put of it obviously but the scares are still there and that'd why I believe I am very insecure.

[Sweetkisses22]

I get stares from people when i go out anywhere. I have been told im really pretty and cute too. But the stares makes me feel uncomfortable alot. I also dislike when people are jealous of my beauty and the

y tend to make a bad comment especially women do this.[/quote

 

So true.. whenever I meet a new girl they always seem threatened by me or stare at me like with some aditude. They're very mean, it makes it hard for me to find friends that are women. I have more guy friends than women. The staring makes me very uncomfortable as well.

[Huntress0527]

Modest people who are physically appealing are even more attractive than the ones who know they are and have an arrogance about them.

 

I definitely felt like an ugly duckling growing up. I was actually made fun for the physical feature that is considered very attractive now as an adult.

 

I feel that I am pretty but nowhere near bombshell status but my personality is what draws people to me. Though I was just told how pretty, gorgeous, attractive etc. this past weekend by multiple people at a party. One even told my fiance don't let her get away because she's so sexy when I wasn't around, lol!

[dangletsbang]

I have terrible self esteem so keep that in mind while reading my response.

 

I really don't know how to feel on this subject..growing up..I was overweight and literally the opposite of what guys in my area were attracted to. Pale, fat [being 5'2", it's not hard to look fat], glasses, braces, 'gothic', etc. When I turned 16, I changed schools..over the summer of 2006 due to a new group of friends..I started changing..not intentionally really..just kind of conformed, I suppose. By the time I started my senior year in 2007, I had lost 50 pounds..discovered make up..started tanning..pretty much came out of my shell. All of the sudden I was getting all of this attention and I had no idea how to handle it..I still don't deal with attention very well even though i'm 'cat called' at daily. Guys who ignored me, made fun of me..all of the sudden wanted to date me..girls who were snobby to me..all of the sudden wanted to be my friend.

 

I'm appreciative that people find me attractive but it really makes me uncomfortable..i'm kind of used to being stared at and yelled at..but I will never get 100% accustomed to it. I don't take compliments well because I don't consider myself anything i'm called..beautiful, gorgeous, sexy, hot..I know I wouldn't be getting attention if I wasn't 'pretty'..but I just don't see it and I will never understand how girls use their bodies and looks as a way to get something they want. I will say though that I do wear more revealing clothes since I worked so hard to lose weight..I feel I have a right to show off what I worked so hard for. My 'revealing clothing' isn't what I would consider skanky.

 

This is the reason I don't focus on looks in the opposite sex..looks change, fade...people use them to get things they want. In my situation and past experiences it's just so fake. I admire beautiful people but not just those who are beautiful on the outside.

[Lady Rashomon]

Most people I meet describe me as stunningly beautiful, so I guess that to the outside world, I am. I grew up an ugly duckling who relied on my personality and intelligence to carry me through life, so I don't typically rely on my looks--but I'd be lying if I said they didn't make things easier for me. Men bend over backwards to do nice things for me in general. It doesn't necessarily lead to dates or relationships that easily, however, as most of them assume I'm already taken.

[Batya33]

Most people describe me as "cute" or "attractive" and, always, slim. Being petite and slim and reasonably attractive has made life easier in some ways, especially in dating. I tended to go for men who were shorter than average (but I was still shorter and smaller than them) and I didn't worry much about being able to attract men, especially when I got over being focused on men who had certain physical features- i.e. more model-like than simply normal, attractive people. Sometimes I felt/feel I have to compensate for looking "cute" and "petite" in business/professional situations

 

At least where I lived when I was dating/in relationships women who were overweight had a harder time attracting men.

[Marah]

I have always wondered what it would be like to be beautiful, it makes me sad sometimes. Wish I could have been.

[jengh]

All my life I've been called beautiful. I have very symmetrical features which most people consider a standard for beauty. I'm incredibly insecure in the way I look, however. In high school, I was smoking hot (I'll just straight up admit that one...110, 5'7, big boobs, blonde, tan)...and I embraced that. Absolutely loved the attention...and then, as if it were some karmic payback, I developed a genetic disorder which caused me to gain a substantial amount of weight. I went into a deep depression because my "easy" life (trust me, it's a hell of a lot easier if you're hot) became not so easy. I was treated differently, people talked behind my back, etc. FINALLY, last year, I dropped a crapton of weight. (basically, I quit eating. bad bad bad, don't do it people!) I'm certainly not 110 again, but things around me began to change. Random guys were asking me out, people were more friendly towards me...just last week at Pride in SF a group of gay guys spent literally 20 minutes going on about how gorgeous I was, how this feature was perfect, how that feature was even more perfect...I'll admit it, it felt good.

 

I suppose, like greywolf, I've been on both ends of the spectrum so I get what it's like for both. I'm no longer smoking hot like I was when I was younger, but I attract a lot of attention still. It's nice to be noticed.

[Firiel]

It's weird because I have had women tell me I am beautiful/pretty throughout my life (not all time time or anything, but it happened), but guys never found me particularly attractive. In high school, I was thin, gangly, and awkward... because of my pretty sisters, I felt like the ugly duckling and never sought to change that. My style (thankfully!) improved, but even in college when I was confident, thin, athletic, and fun, guys didn't show that much interest in me. I know I'm objectively at lease semi-attractive (I'm quite thin [okay, I'll be honest at the risk of sounding vain... I have a rockin' bod] and have at least a passable face!), but it's never translated into the dating world. I'm still not sure what that missing "X" factor was, but one guy thought I had "it," and you really only need one, right?

 

I don't think it's really affected me positively or negatively. Being thin has caused me to be mistaken for frail several times, but it's no big deal. The nice thing about being decent looking is that it makes it easy to "clean up" for interviews and such. It doesn't take a ton of work to make it appear like I am aware of and care for my appearance... but really, that's probably more due to a naturally manageable head of hair than "looks."

[Batya33]

I don't like being noticed for my looks anymore - makes me self-conscious. I like being noticed for things I do and for making people laugh. I did like being complimented about my looks when I was in my teens/20s. I dated several guys who could have been male models and looked "hot". But I wasn't attracted to them so I don't agree that women who look "hot" necessarily get the kind of attention that can lead to a serious relationship. They probably do get more of the "first impression" attention based on looks.

[Jetta]

My ex's told me often I was beautiful, and my parents did as well. Although I feel beautiful, in part because I've been told it so many times, I don't see it when I look at myself in photos. Granted I have put on weight and it's awful. I've never been a hottie even when I was a thinner person. It does affect your life when you're beautiful because I notice the difference in how I've been treated just in the weight gain. Which I'm currently working on losing. People think I'm snobby instead of introverted for example. I've gotten better jobs in part because of how I looked when I was young plus I have a great name, it's a beautiful name that really helps to get interviews for example.

 

Beauty does matter and it is in the eye of the beholder. But I will say because I was a beautiful child I didn't develop my personality as well as I should have, it has hindered me.

[jengh]

Isn't it almost a kick in the teeth when you gain weight and suddenly you're treated differently/worse? It was an eye-opener for me, even though I was so young. I thought everyone got treated the way I did. Because of that (among other things), it has made me treat EVERYONE with equal respect and dignity because you never know what they're dealing with.

 

I have a pretty name, too.... Jennifer Grace.... I've gotten so many compliments on that one. I wonder if it's helped me with anything...

[asthesparrow]

Hmm interesting topic. I feel pretty unattractive most of the time. I rarely get compliments at all from friends or dates, but will often get compliments on the clothes I wear or the work I've done. I had a boyfriend for 5 years and over that entire time, he never complimented my looks. So essentially, I've never felt attractive.

Strangely though, I get hit on a lot. I always have men holler at me or blatantly hit on me in public. I can't begin to explain this. I dress conservatively, don't have large breasts, and feel unattractive (which must mean I exude low confidence right?) and yet I have men hit on me on a frequent basis. That, and I've had stalkers before as well.

 

So, am I completely warped? I don't think I will ever feel very attractive.

[mya]

I've been told I'm pretty/cute for a large part of my life. I like it but at the same time hate stares. Also, being a quiet person sometimes people think I am a snob because of my looks. Also I feel that people often stereotype me because of my looks (cute babyface, thin, small etc.) so for me it has been an advantage and disadvantage but overall I am happy with my looks.

[twentiesgirl86]

I've always wondered this as well. I always feel jealous of people who are really good-looking. I also feel intimidated by them. I've been getting told since I was 12 that I am ugly, and people still make fun of me about it. Although lately I've started to notice that it's just people my age or younger who do it. People who are older than me tell me I look good. This one guy that had be at least 45 told me I was beautiful, and he asked if I had guys at my door all the time. It makes me wish I could feel confortable dating someone that much older, because I get no attention whatsoever from people my age. The oldest I would go for is mid-thirties since I am mid-twenties. A group of these people who were probably early twenties to mid (I really couldn't tell) called me nasty the other day when I was at the bus stop. Which really offended me, because I am a very clean person. I was wearing really nice clothes that I just bought for summer. I had my hair up, and I recently got a mani-pedi. I am on two week holidays and I work in a factory, so I am taking advantage of being all feminine while I can for these two weeks. I was just standing there, minding my own business, thinking about the night before. I'd gone out with a few guys from work and we'd had a good time, so I had been in a really good mood. And then they were standing their giggling about how ugly I was, and the girls were telling the guys they should ask me out. That's when the one guy was like: "No, she is nasty!" and then they started whispering and laughing. The girls were all skinny leggy, and pretty girls. The guys were all good-looking. So it isn't like they were doing it out on insecurities... although probably to impress each other. Something I was hoping people would grow out of past High School, but apparently not. I've noticed that with a lot of people in my age group. They are over grown High School kids. Not all, but a lot of them. Anyway, I was feeling pretty down about it, and actually pissed off as well. I am really getting tired of being victimized for my looks, especially since I do try and look decent. It's not like I go around wearing rags, and have messy hair and dirty looking.

 

So anyway, I get on the bus and I sit in the front away from those people who went to the back. A man, who had to have been in his mid-thirties to late sat beside me after a few stops. He was gorgeous, and so I felt a little nervous like I usually do around beautiful people because I didn't know if he was going to be mean to me. However, he struck up a conversation with me which made me feel really good. He got off the bus before I did, and before he left he asked me if anyone had told me how pretty I was. He told me I looked exotic with my tan and that lime green was my colour. Nobody has ever told me anything like that in my life, and if I hadn't been so shocked, I would have asked him for his number. I wish I had to be honest. While we talked on the bus, I learned he was single. I don't know if he was saying that to make me feel good, but somehow I don't think so.

 

This is a trend I've been noticing a lot lately. Older people (both men and women) find me good-looking, but people my age don't. It seems like it's anyone who is mid-thirties and older who have this opinion.

 

But anyway, I wish I knew what it was like to be beautiful. I saw this girl at the coffee shop today, and I felt envy for her. She was very skinny, wearing a pretty skirt, she had red hair and green eyes. She was tanned. I wished so much I could have her legs and look good in a skirt like she did. She turned everyones heads, even the women. And she looked so confident so she let out even more of a beauty than some pretty people do. She knew she was gorgeous, but the thing is, she didn't seem arrogant about it like some good-looking people are. She smiled at everyone, and even patted a little boy on the head as she left. I wish I could have that kind of confidence. I've been trying lately to smile at everyone I see, because I know people like confident people but it doesn't always work. Some people have liked it, but I've noticed they aren't young like me. They are older people who love it. I'm not really sure how I can connect with people my age, to be honest.

[Sparkly Eyes]

I would say I'm average looking but also attractive. I get attention from men but nothing extraordinary. I too wish sometimes that I were much more attractive, who doesn't? But I imagine that would have its own problems too.