Ivory_Tower Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 This thread was prompted by clips I watched from the documentary "beauty in the eyes of the beheld." I have a friend that I always thought was very pretty, but because of this she became really arrogant and guys would only put up with it for so long. Do people consider you beautiful? Does that make you feel vain or insecure? Do you think it has made your life harder or easier? Anything else you would like to add? I realize that everyone's idea of what is beautiful varies, but I'm curious to see how people will respond to this thread. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I consider myself beautiful but not hot - my fiance would disagree but I have never seen myself as a smoking hot babe. Beautiful yeah, sure. It hasn't made my life easier or harder really Link to comment
thejigsup Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I've always been told I was "cute" or "pretty", but I was never told I was beautiful. I'm very happy with my looks, but I've never been vain or insecure. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Is life easier for attractive people? Sure. Link to comment
Alezia Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I consider myself pretty, but more in the 'cute girlfriend' category. I don't have the sexy big-breasted club look going on. There is probably not as much advantage as in the latter category with getting free drinks and lots of expensive gifts, but you do have an easier time with dating or making friends without having to put effort. If you look nice, people want to be around you and will include you in whatever social undertaking they are doing. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Yep, Im smoking hot, and its made my life tremendously easier. The key is to not rely on your looks, just know when to work them to your advantage. Link to comment
ProtestTheHero Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 lol, always interesting to see these threads. If you'd have targeted guys I couldn't respond because there are just very few people in the world that others (since you didn't say we were grading ourselves) generally respond to in a similarly positive way in regards to looks. I've met many attractive/pretty/cute women in my lifetime, but only a handful of beautiful women (that I knew personally). Then again, these are my standards (skinny/relatively skinny with appealing facial features), but if we employ this rather conventional scale then there simply aren't tons of people like that out there. If there were, it wouldn't be rare, and the response wouldn't be as powerful. The sheer number of guys that make themselves look like idiots chasing after these types of women and the ridiculously entitled feeling many of them have (like they should be able to coast on looks alone) is a testament to how rare/powerful it is. I'm just happy not to be one of the idiots building up their hype. I wouldn't do anything for a beautiful woman that I wouldn't do for Rosie. Link to comment
CarnelianButterfly Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I don't consider myself beautiful, I'd call myself cute or pretty. I know there are men that find me very attractive and there are those that don't. I feel both vain and insecure. Usually I feel vain when I spend too much time looking in the mirror, I can't explain it very well, but to me if feels like I'm wasting time. I feel insecure more often, generally concerning my weight. I think beauty can make a small difference in the day to day things, but for the most part attitude contributes the lions share. Being friendly and polite will garner better treatment than cold arrogance any day. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Oh, I'll add - it's also made me work a lot harder at everything - business, fitness, etc. I never wanted people to think I got the job or the title because of my looks. Only by merit. So, I probably over-compensate to ensure I don't wear that label. Link to comment
greywolf Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I was born in the States, and while I wasn't ugly, I was just really awkward looking. I had horrible teeth (went through 5 years of braces and surgery), big bushy eyebrows, and my mom gave us bowl cuts and dressed us in the ugliest clothes possible. =/ When I was 12, I moved to another country where I was very often told how beautiful I was, because I was that culture's standard of beauty. I didn't know how to take the compliments at first. I always felt awkward about it, and I'd make a face like that person was just kidding around with me, until one day someone scolded me and said, "You say thank you." And then I realized I was being rude whenever I did that. I was very often the center of attention (though that had a lot to do with me being an American citizen), and everyone liked me, but I didn't really have any real friends because everyone always thought of me as having higher status than they did. I'm getting off-topic. Anyway, I came back to the States when I was around 17, and didn't get nearly the same amount of compliments, so at that point I thought that here in the US, I probably just looked really plain because there are a lot of beautiful people in the US (though I still considered myself pretty), and I believed that for awhile. Then as I got used to the culture here in the US again, I noticed that people here do find me attractive too. I don't feel overly vain or insecure, but aging does scare me. My dad taught my sister and me to be sexual objects/trophies when we were still young, and that still affects me. I think that it has made my life easier in some areas, and harder in others. Link to comment
Stay_home Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 This thread was prompted by clips I watched from the documentary "beauty in the eyes of the beheld." I have a friend that I always thought was very pretty, but because of this she became really arrogant and guys would only put up with it for so long. Do people consider you beautiful? Does that make you feel vain or insecure? Do you think it has made your life harder or easier? Anything else you would like to add? I realize that everyone's idea of what is beautiful varies, but I'm curious to see how people will respond to this thread. I get some looks and stares sometime; I'm a handsome guy and I try to take care of myself. But I'm not no superstar and I'm definitely not arrogant about that or the blessings I have. I know that those things are material compared to what life is really all about. I just say my thank you's to those who acknowledge and keep it moving. And I don't use that as leverage to put me overtop of anybody else. Never have, never will. I think what draws attention sometime is that I'm positive and easygoing with everybody. I'm easy to get along with, talk to, laugh with, have a drink with. Still can't find a damn nice woman to believe all that, but that's a different story for a different day! Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I'm going to go on record as saying Greywolf is absolutely gorgeous. Hands down. Link to comment
ProtestTheHero Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I can verify greywolf's claim (no need to say thanks, lol). I wouldn't worry about aging, grey. There are some things that time doesn't change (being laid back/interesting/low maintenance being amongst those). You have a lot of "guy" in you, if you don't mind me saying, lol. Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 I'm going to go on record as saying Greywolf is absolutely gorgeous. Hands down. I want to see a picture! Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I want to see a picture! yah...whatever happened to the post a pic thread? Link to comment
lalalollipops Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Well I'm not stunning or gorgeous, but I get told I'm attractive/pretty. It makes me feel uncomfortable actually. Grew up being an ugly duckling, and still am not comfortable with compliments. I however give off a cold vibe =/ so yeah, gotta work on that asap lol! Greywolf is quite pretty =) I checked out her profile. Link to comment
ProtestTheHero Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 yah...whatever happened to the post a pic thread? Inappropriate stuff happened and it perma-died. Doubt it will ever be back. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Inappropriate stuff happened and it perma-died. Doubt it will ever be back. oh...some turds in the punch bowl eh? not really a huge shock though...is it. Link to comment
NightLily Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Ivory.. if I remember correctly you are very pretty yourself so you tell us Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 Ivory.. if I remember correctly you are very pretty yourself so you tell us Honestly, anyone is pretty with some make up~! Do you really remember what I look like! Gosh, its been a long time since I posted a picture on here. Link to comment
BlueMilk Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Hmmm, I think how attractive I am depends on who is looking at me at the time. Link to comment
greywolf Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Ivory.. if I remember correctly you are very pretty yourself so you tell us I remember this too. Link to comment
NightLily Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Honestly, anyone is pretty with some make up~! Do you really remember what I look like! Gosh, its been a long time since I posted a picture on here. Yup I do remember! Slender, very pale, light brown hair?, and somewhat elf looking Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted June 30, 2011 Author Share Posted June 30, 2011 I prefer the term pixie! Link to comment
BrokenSmile Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I know that I am considered attractive, however I have always been very insecure about my looks and so I feel like that comes accross as well.. Also, I spent most of my adult life in varying stages of being overweight, but have just lost a significant amount of weight, and I definitely have noticed a difference in the way people treat me. I can't even describe how different the way I'm being treated now compares with a few months ago, but possibly others who have gone from being overweight to thin have noticed similar things. I often wonder if this different treatment comes from weight loss alone or the fact that I am more confident now and projecting a more positive vibe? (If that makes sense..) Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I prefer the term pixie! So, are you going to tell them what it's like being beautiful? lol Link to comment
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