What's the deal with my bf & his ex

[Cornelia]

I mentioned in another post that I'm insecure about my bf and his ex, but I realized it was silly and I've been feeling better. However, the other day, we had to go to an event and his ex was there. It was the first time they saw each other since their breakup, which was about three years ago. Prior to that, they were together for three years. Anyway, they haven't spoken since their breakup. It was really awkward because they completely ignored each other, as if the other didn't exist. They both acknowledged everyone in the room except for each other.

 

She's tried to get in touch with him several times in the past, and he's always told me about it because he knows it would upset me if I found out on my own. Every time she did, he'd completely ignored her messages.

 

When I think about it, there really seems like I have nothing to worry about. I still can't help but think they that pretending the other didn't exist was really silly and it made them both seem bitter, and made me wonder if they really had any 'closure'.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Meeting an ex can be very awkward. Had he dumped her or vice versa? Civility is not always possible when seeing an ex..sometimes it is easier to not acknowledge their existence, or just say a quick hello and walk away.

[Cornelia]

Meeting an ex can be very awkward. Had he dumped her or vice versa? Civility is not always possible when seeing an ex..sometimes it is easier to not acknowledge their existence, or just say a quick hello and walk away.

 

She dumped him but tried to get back with him, and then insisted to go NC when he rejected her. Despite that, she still tries to get in touch with him. I think I'm more worried about her than I am of him doing something bad to me.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

She dumped him but tried to get back with him, and then insisted to go NC when he rejected her. Despite that, she still tries to get in touch with him. I think I'm more worried about her than I am of him doing something bad to me.

 

If you are sure of him then she is no threat to your relationship no matter what she tries to do.

[abitbroken]

It seems that he wants nothing to do with her, and maybe out of respect for you, and the general awkwardness, he does not wish to speak with her. You have nothing to worry about. If she tries to get in touch and he ignores her - then you have zero to worry about. What is she going to do? She doesn't have access to you. if she leaves a message or writes a letter to him, she doesn't know where you live and probably doesn't know who you are if he does't speak to her - so what can she do? The thing she is doing is what you are doing to yourself. you are building her up big time in your mind. The worst thing it seems that could happen is he actually contacts her back and says buzz off, it seems, or he can just continue to ignore her. her feelings are her feelings and not his feelings. People "think" they need to be friends with an ex and they get upset sometimes if not.