How do I let go of the Goodtimes?

[LN1987]

How do I forget all the good we had. Our memories are on facebook, my computer, I have images that say to me, "you know what, it was pretty good up until the last month'.... How do I let it all go, How when to me... It was so good

[mouseno4]

Archive them up so you cant readily view them. Save them for when you are fully healed and can look at them without emotions stirring.

[Danny77]

Put the images away for now.

Save them and put them in a folder and don't look at them.

Delete the FB ones after saving them and start again.

 

These things are the biggest reason you'll not move forward believe me.

You are asking how to forget right.

So, "out of sight, out of mind"

It's that simple.

You are not in a position to be able to look at any of these images at the moment as you are hurting bad right?

Get them out of your way for now and heal.

I promise you'll one day look back on them in a different light when you feel better and stronger.

Trust me, I did the same thing. i looked at all the pics and it stopped me feeling better for weeks.

As soon as I put them away then I started to forget about them from day one!

 

Try it and you'll see that it works and then you want to carry on feeling better so you'll continue to not look at them knowing that it's working.

 

Do it and see.

[RedDress]

I agree.

 

You might even find the process of archiving/deleting them surprisingly painful. But... that's the start of the healing process. It's an acknowlegement that it's over and that it's time to move on. Symbolic but powerful.

[LN1987]

And as for the mental memories... they are by far the hardest...

[charity]

How do I forget all the good we had. Our memories are on facebook, my computer, I have images that say to me, "you know what, it was pretty good up until the last month'.... How do I let it all go, How when to me... It was so good

 

has it been long? those memories do fade, and they become a lot less painful. it just takes some time.

[hello678]

We've all explained to you that they need to disappear off your facebook and computer. You know that to be the truth.

 

Please tell me you havnt contacted him again

[rediscovering]

And as for the mental memories... they are by far the hardest...

 

The way I see it, I had a great time with my exin the past and that's just it, the past is the past and we must now look forward to the future.

 

Cherish the memories you had with him and let go of all the material things you have from him by deleting, throwing away, and et cetera. After all, you still have those "mental" memories, but right now, you need something look forward to rather than look back on.

 

The future can bring amazing things to you if you let it, but if you wallow in your grief and sadness all the time then your path will be difficult.

 

But sincerely, if you let it all go with love, you will feel better, I promise.

[LP90]

I agree with everyone. The memories that are deep and mean something to you will stay in your head forever. You dont need constant reminders of more and more things. The most important thing is removing everything that even remotely reminds you of your ex and either throw it away or hide it well. The day i broke up, the very first thing i did was remove every last bit of physical proof she was ever with me. Pictures, texts, emails, blocked FB, deleted numbers, etc. It was painful because it really hit hard she is no longer a part of my life, but i can look back now 3 weeks later and tell you it was one of the best things i couldve done regarding moving on and healing. Dont dwell in the past, look forward to the future. There will be someone new, better, smarter and someone who you will build new memories with. It doesnt end here and now.

[bichin]

I agree with LP90, new memories are the best cure for old ones.

[bmm]

I agree with everyone here and I do the same. Got rid of everything that reminded me of her, I let her take all the furniture and everything, I started over with my own stuff, even got rid of any piece of clothing she ever bought me.