gingerlemon Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 So, the main question is in my thread title. A friend of mine and I were discussing this a little while back, how being infatuated with someone is almost a bit like a mental (?) illness, where you lose your normal compass, can't concentrate, thoughts obsessed with another person, it feels a bit like an addiction, your regular sense of judgment changes/diminishes, and so on. I haven't looked into yet, but I also wonder if the chemical brain processes that go along with infatuation have any similarities to any kinds of mental disorder or addiction? Maybe I'm exaggerating, but I really think infatuation can be thought of as a kind of illness - sometimes a wonderful at that, but also one that seriously interferes with your general functioning. What do you all think? Link to comment
Goncas Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 I would agree and one has to make serious steps to let go. I think thats why some people need to do counceling about it. And i would say its defenitly and addiction, after my breakup it was painfull to have NC and each msg from her, contact etc... was like a fix and it was calming but soon enough i would need another fix. So yeah physically i dont know if something happens but mentally i would classified it as an ilness. Sometimes you can work yourself out and another times you need help. I mean people actually commit suicide because of that addiction urge! Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 I mean people actually commit suicide because of that addiction urge! Yes, that's one of the things I find fascinating - all the 'things we do for infatuation'. Literature and art is full of drama about that. I find it amazing that something which is 'natural' (as opposed to drugs, alcohol etc) has SUCH a strong effect on our judgement and orientation. Link to comment
DoGGYtREAts Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Yes, that's one of the things I find fascinating - all the 'things we do for infatuation'. Literature and art is full of drama about that. I find it amazing that something which is 'natural' (as opposed to drugs, alcohol etc) has SUCH a strong effect on our judgement and orientation. Agreed 100% Link to comment
sosaine Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 I've often thought that.When I remember things I did when I was young, when I didn't realise it was madness and thought it was real, I feel ashamed. I cannot account for what came over me. i didn't do anything psychotic but just out of character for reserved, easily embarrassed me. As I got older I still felt insane but knew that I should lock myself in my room rather than act upon it. Link to comment
LoveSoDeep Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 I was just thinking about this last night! I feel totally out of control when I'm smitten and it's good and all bad at same time. It gets even worse when the object of your affection is absent for a day or a week. It must be some chemical change inthe brain I'd love to read a real study on this. Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 I've often thought that.When I remember things I did when I was young, when I didn't realise it was madness and thought it was real, I feel ashamed. I can SO relate to that. I look back and think HOW did that happen??? But it did It must be some chemical change inthe brain I'd love to read a real study on this. I'd love to read some proper research on this as well. I also wonder why certain people trigger this madness in us and others don't. Previously when I've asked people the question 'what is infatuation', I often get the answer 'it's chemicals in the brain'. Which it is, but that doesn't explain the mechanisms that trigger those chemicals to go bananas. Why do I get infatuated with David and not with Andy? Link to comment
dramallama Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I have been infatuated with someone before. I felt like I was going crazy. He was all I could think about. Link to comment
DoGGYtREAts Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 Also I think almost everyone experiences "infatuation" at some point in thier life, Some of us more then once And then you have to take into account some people Become what i would call "Obsessively Infatuated" by that i mean it goes even beyond the normal mind-altering rush of emotions most of us experience. Were strange creatures and Everyone's experience and reaction to feelings is different. Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted July 6, 2011 Author Share Posted July 6, 2011 Yes, I think I tend to gravitate towards the obsessive end of the scale. I don't stalk people or anything like that, but when I fall for someone, I usually fall very hard and very deep Link to comment
Irial Posted July 15, 2011 Share Posted July 15, 2011 I think "infatuation", just like being in love to an extent, does interfere with a person's normal functioning. I completely agree with that. I started being infatuated with my current boyfriend in February, then I fell in love and whatnot. However, the whole obsessive thinking and stuff, has not stopped yet. I can't stand it, it bothers me to no end. I don't do anything about it, me and him aren't in touch a lot since we are long distance and he's currently busy most of the time, but damn I am thinking about him all day. Even when I am busy with other things, I just can't stop it. I am trying to find a way to get seriously distracted from it, because it is interfering with my concentration, which I need to succeed in university the way I'd like. If anybody knows how to get rid of this kind of feeling, I'd love to hear it ](*,) I want to keep on loving him but without this whole obsessive infatuation thing. Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 Aaw, that's very sweet even though you're struggling with it. I totally know what you're saying about interfering with concentration. There's part of me that really cherishes the experience, too. It's so intense. Link to comment
Bushsquirrel Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Totally agree. I WAS infatuated. And after many tears and many self doubts, I regained my composure and now I am with the man of my dreams. Infatuation is like the old saying. . . If it's too good to be true.... Just wait, learn to be confident again, and most importantly don't go looking. Then the most unexplained and amazing things will happen to you Good luck to all in love HAPPY KIWI Link to comment
twentiesgirl86 Posted July 28, 2011 Share Posted July 28, 2011 I agree with this. I hate when I get infactuated with someone because I can't stop thinking about them. I'm in this situation right now. I always feel like there is something wrong with me too. I don't stalk either, far from it, in fact I try to avoid the guy I like so he doesn't find out I like him. It's night time that is the worse though. During the day I can take my mind off of him, but at night time I can't stop. Link to comment
gingerlemon Posted July 28, 2011 Author Share Posted July 28, 2011 I so relate to a lot of that. It's very obsessive. But at the same time, it's such a wonderful feeling, like a drug. It's similar to other addictions and to drug use in that sense, you lose your 'mind' and your sense of judgment. Maybe you should let him find out. Maybe he'll like you Link to comment
GhostRocket Posted July 31, 2011 Share Posted July 31, 2011 Probably. It almost destroyed my relationship with my girlfriend as I almost cheated on her. Link to comment
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