Very insecure about my.. Erection problems.

[samy109]

Hello, I'm 15, And feel like i'm weird and hate myself for this. I get erections WAY to easily. I get them when i'm really tired. I get them when I simply kiss my girlfriend on the cheek, when we hug, and badly when she sits on me. We havn't made out yet, and I feel so stupid because i'm 15 and havn't made out, but I get erections so badly. We start talking lovey dovey and I get the warm feeling, plus an erection. I feel wrong when Im not.

[mouseno4]

Wow, i have to say i have never heard of this before. Didnt know this could be a problem, but obviously it could be.

 

What you could try is to focus your mind on something other than sexual thoughts. It can in fact help, when a certain action normally produces an erection - except physical contact that is.

 

Oh and i should note - this is a human evolution survival thing. As a race, it is better for survival purposes if men and women develop procreation capabilities as young as possible. So being easily able to get an erection is a positive trait for our species. Of course, since we are no longer at a constant risk of dying by 40-50 - it does not help anymore. By design, women i believe are capable of getting pregnant as young as 13. Men, a couple years older at 15. My numbers may be a bit off, but the point is still there.

 

EDIT - After a bit of research, my numbers were actually a bit off. ~11 is when it is considered reasonably safe for pregnancy and 12-13 for men.

 

Basically, getting a hard on as easily as possible and as young as possible... sadly is ''good'' for evolution.

[samy109]

Thanks for the reply, And I don't think of anything sexual at all it just, happends I could try not thinking about it as I have found it does make it go away, and when I hug her I get a partial one easily, I get one with any girl. Is it just me? I feel so... Wrong

[mouseno4]

Thanks for the reply, And I don't think of anything sexual at all it just, happends I could try not thinking about it as I have found it does make it go away, and when I hug her I get a partial one easily, I get one with any girl. Is it just me? I feel so... Wrong

 

OK. Here is something i think you should try. Just imagine it in your head the most gross thing you can think of. Now imagine in your mind that image when you know you might get a hard on - say when you hug your girl. Burn that image into your mind so you focus only on it. It may not work instantly, but it can help. Also - DO NOT look at her breasts or crotch area as this can provoke the brain into producing an erection. Do not let your gaze leave her eyes. If that is hard (it can be) look at the spot right between her eye brows and imagine burning a hole in her forehead with your eyes.

 

What this does, is train your brain into creating a mental barrier so only physical stimuli can produce the erection. I MAY NOT work, but it is at least worth a try.

[Kitkat973]

Is it just me? I feel so... Wrong

 

Googling spontaneous erections, I got 1,570,000 results. It's not just you, you're not alone, and this doesn't reflect on who you are as a person.

[samy109]

Thanks very much I shall try this,

[mouseno4]

Thanks very much I shall try this,

 

If it means a lot to you, dont give up.

 

(you can even teach yourself how to lose an erection at will

[ED82]

You are only 15 and probably still coming to terms with your sexuality and body, don't worry about what you perceive to be a problem as this will only make you worse. It's the same with premature ejaculation a lot of the time it's worry and Anxiety causing problems in a mans nether regions.

 

You need to get comfortable with your girlfriend and intimate contact with her, from what you have written I would guess that this is your first girlfriend...? Your mind has not experienced these physical and emotional feelings before and it will take time to adjust. Just be calm and take things slowly.

 

Now just to reframe your thinking about what you believe is a problem, I am 29 and have had various relationships and at the beginning of every singe one kissing caused me to have an erection, every single one ! This is slightly different to your situation but it's still completely normal, you do not believe you are having sexual thoughts but your body is having a sexual response to something in your mind.

 

Once you become comfortable with your girlfriend and your contact with her the erection's will decrease. Enjoy the new sensations and allow yourself to adjust, there is nothing wrong with you and you do not have a problem it's all a learning process for your mind and some learn faster than others just give it time. If the situation arrises where your girlfriend notices joke it off and say something like I have no idea why it happens but trust me when I say it's you causing it..... Or something to that effect, it will make you feel a little less embarrassed and give her a side ways complement..

[Snowy]

Half of 15 year olds are like this...

[RoboDuck]

Hello, I'm 15, And feel like i'm weird and hate myself for this. I get erections WAY to easily. I get them when i'm really tired. I get them when I simply kiss my girlfriend on the cheek, when we hug, and badly when she sits on me. We havn't made out yet, and I feel so stupid because i'm 15 and havn't made out, but I get erections so badly. We start talking lovey dovey and I get the warm feeling, plus an erection. I feel wrong when Im not.

 

Welcome to being 15..... That'll probably slow down until it stops when you're about 20. That's what worked for me.

[mouseno4]

As much as i would like to be eternally youthful, not sure i could handle being 15 again. All those hormones pounding away, all those drop dead gorgeous girls in bikinis at the pool... sorry where was i?

[siktomystomach]

Trust me, It's not a problem!!! I'm 35 and this still happens to me! lol.. I'm dead serious! Just tuck it in your wasteline...If my fiance' comes up and gives me a long hug it starts...if im tired it starts.....if i sit on a hard seat it starts.....but dont think of it as a problem.. there are men out there that cant obtain an erection at all so enjoy it and tuck it in your wasteband!!!!

[DoGGYtREAts]

Been there OP. Still do from time to time. It happens. Our brains our our primary sex organ.. and well the brightest minds have yet to fully understand the mind. It's one of those things "the world may never Know"

Adolescent hormones can often play a role tho, I wouldn't be overly concerned or feel "bad" about it.

[FathomFear]

Hello, I'm 15

 

That's the cause of your issue. Control comes with time. What you're experiencing is quite normal for a teen.

[DoGGYtREAts]

That's the cause of your issue. Control comes with time. What you're experiencing is quite normal for a teen.

Well.. Some control Any ways

Seriously tho, The adolescent Hormones do play havok with your sense of arousal. It's not uncomon for Males of your age to get them just sitting around for no apparent reason.

[capilot]

Half of 15 year olds are like this...

 

Exactly. The male half. If this wasn't happening, then I'd worry.