Anti-Alcoholic, Anti-Bar, Anti-Night Club, and Anti-Online Thread *Ladies Input*

[beatlesfan77]

I apologize if this has been posted before in any way, shape, or form. As the thread states, I am looking for some input from the ladies here on ways you have successfully found dates that did not involve the above mentioned perils. I have seen from other postings that a lot of people meet through friends. However in my situation all of my friends are married and all of their friends are in relationships or do not want to date anyone. I hate online and would rather do the traditional meet a woman in person, talk to her, and then ask for her number. Then call her the next day and schedule a date based on our conversation. I'm interested to hear what has worked for you in terms of locations, situations, etc.

 

Take care.

 

- Kevin

[abitbroken]

Sorry, I met my boyfriend online. I didn't meet in a chat room or anything. He saw my profile and emailed to ask me out, and we never emailed eachother again until well into the relationship to forward photos we took of the times together or jokes. So, I don't consider us a "typical" couple that met online. We don't text eachother either - its a very "in person" relationship. Unfortunately people are a bit leery about someone striking up a convo, asking for a number, then asking someone on a date. Typically, it only works if you have seen someone around a lot, ie, members of the same meetup group or volunteer for the same thing or have something else in common or have gotten the gist of eachother.

[gingerlemon]

I met one partner while travelling (back packing) and the other through work. Other venues where my friends have met partners include voluntary work, hiking/ walking associations, dive clubs, salsa (or other dance) courses. Are there any hobbies you like which are socially oriented (such as hiking or dancing)?

[TakingtheBlame]

I have met the three men I dated seriously and long term through friends (one was a high school classmate, one went to college with some of my friends from high school, and one was a co-worker of my friend.) I once met a guy who I dated for awhile through a study abroad program...he was from my country and in a different school than I was but we studied in the same foreign institute. So traveling can be a fun and interesting way to meet someone. However, I've also met men through social activities, like my book club and volleyball league. Also, if you enjoy running (or are interested in taking it up), you might consider signing up for a half marathon or marathon and join a running club to find training partners. I've known several people who met at running clubs and ended up engaged or married, since running clubs generally meet 3-4 times a week and socialize afterwards.

[Weeb]

Current guy is a co-worker (probably not recommended haha) and the previous guy was a friend of a friend.

 

I think clubs and hobbies would be a great way to meet people though. Even if you don't meet a woman you hit it off with there, it can help expand your circle of friends and maybe they have more friends.

[beatlesfan77]

Thank you for all the replies. At this time I do not belong to any hobby related groups which are social. I don't think many members of the opposite sex would want to join a video game group which is one of my hobbies. I have thought of taking dance of some kind. One time I tried swing but the instructor went so fast I could not keep up. So I'll have to give that another shot with a different person teaching. The groups that everyone mentioned were they through Meetup or some other medium?