Guys,what could be the reason that your staring at your gf?

[xyzzzz]

sometimes my bf just looks at me without saying anything. Im wondering,guys what could be the reason if you do this to your gf? is it cuz you stare and think you love her? or you think "oh she's getting boring" or "i found myself not attracted to her anymore" other negative things to yourself?

[mouseno4]

I have done this a lot myself.

 

I dont personally do it in a negative way. I just happen to appreciate women a lot more. (their entire physical shape that is)

 

One thing that i like to do is just stare into her eyes for a good while. I guess it makes me feel connected on an emotional level. (spiritual if you are into that kind of thing)

 

Oh, could also be intense curiosity of ''what is going on in her mind'' kind of thing.

[3fuegos3]

I had a girlfriend in secondary school, where staring into each other's eyes was all we really did. Neither of us were much for words. If we'd been older, this sort of staring would've led to sex.

[stuka80]

i do this sometimes too, 90% of the time it's because i'm admiring her and the other 10% is nothing worth talking about.

[FathomFear]

sometimes my bf just looks at me without saying anything. Im wondering,guys what could be the reason if you do this to your gf? is it cuz you stare and think you love her? or you think "oh she's getting boring" or "i found myself not attracted to her anymore" other negative things to yourself?

 

I think that just by asking this question you're unearthing a insecurity here. Are you afraid that you're boring or not attractive?

[Realitynut]

my b/f never stared at me...maybe that's why we're not together anymore....

[Batya33]

I think you're going down the wrong path by looking for a reason that is gender-based. Since you are involved in a serious relationship, why not regard him as an individual rather than assuming that how he behaves is dictated by his gender and can be explained by a stranger who happens to be a man? Is there a problem with asking him, nicely, why he is staring at you?

[FathomFear]

I think you're going down the wrong path by looking for a reason that is gender-based. Since you are involved in a serious relationship, why not regard him as an individual rather than assuming that how he behaves is dictated by his gender and can be explained by a stranger who happens to be a man? Is there a problem with asking him, nicely, why he is staring at you?

 

lol--if people actually took that advice it would suddenly eliminate half of the posts on these boards. I swear every second or third post starts with "Why do women do X..." or "Why do men do Y..."

[mouseno4]

lol--if people actually took that advice it would suddenly eliminate half of the posts on these boards. I swear every second or third post starts with "Why do women do X..." or "Why do men do Y..."

 

Took the words right out of my mouth. The amount of times ive wanted to just say ''BLOODY HELL JUST ASK HIM/HER'' and hit post.

[xyzzzz]

I think you're going down the wrong path by looking for a reason that is gender-based. Since you are involved in a serious relationship, why not regard him as an individual rather than assuming that how he behaves is dictated by his gender and can be explained by a stranger who happens to be a man? Is there a problem with asking him, nicely, why he is staring at you?

cuz asking him doesnt give me an answer.he doesnt tel me

[xyzzzz]

I think that just by asking this question you're unearthing a insecurity here. Are you afraid that you're boring or not attractive?

sorta yeah. cuz i think after people have been together for so long everyone finds everyone boring and not exciting anymore,to certain extence

[tresqua]

sorta yeah. cuz i think after people have been together for so long everyone finds everyone boring and not exciting anymore,to certain extence

 

How can a person be boring and not exciting to a "certain extent".

 

I'd agree that there's a bit of a fade out in the level of passion but using terms like boring and non exciting are about as black and white as you can get.

[Massari]

I do this also. my gf (very recent) and I started dating, i tend to stare at her a lot and i am admiring her, she calms me down me i am with her. she even asks me what i am thinking. My starring is normally followed by a smile to let her know that i feel lucky to have her in my life. a blank star is not good it could lead to confusion but if there is something associated with it like a smile, it would mean a lot.

[Batya33]

cuz asking him doesnt give me an answer.he doesnt tel me

 

Then your problem isn't the staring -it's that he doesn't choose to be open with you about how he feels when you ask him. That could be because of the way you ask him that might put him off for some reason or it could be that he is the type of person who doesn't choose to be open with the person he is supposed to be close to. Some people actually like the latter situation because it gives them an excuse not to be open/vulnerable either. If it's the former then you have to figure out, with him, how you can be more comfortable around each other.

[Oneironaut]

Honestly, he may just be staring "into the distance" and thinking about something else entirely.

 

My dad used to do this a lot...we'd all be hanging out in the living room, and one of us would look up and he'd be staring at us...we'd ask him why, and he would sort of blink and be like, "Sorry, I didn't mean to, I was just lost in thought." Since then, I've noticed that with other people, too.

 

Or, as others have said, he may just be admiring you subconsciously, and not even realizing he's doing it.

 

I dunno, if that's the worst problem you guys have, you have it pretty good, IMO.

[Benville]

If hes anything like me, he cant give you a reason because he doesn't have a tangible reason. I like to look, and appreciate, makes me feel calm and warm just to look at someone that Im grateful for having in my life.

 

My girl asks me too, and gets confused, but then does it herself sometimes too