mouseno4 Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Can girls be playful in a relationship without it always ending up being sexual? With their partner that is. Im not talking about foreplay, making out or anything. I am talking silly games and being stupid with each other, that isnt anything to do with romance/sex/all those kinds of things? Also nothing to do with gender specific things of course. This isnt anything to do with me, i always just end up thinking about various ''psychological'' debates such as this every day. This just happens to be this mornings mental debate (yes i am introverted and topics like this consume my thoughts every day) Link to comment
teabee Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Girls being playful with guys? That they are in a relationship with? Girls being playful with other girls? Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 LOL sorry i mean WITH their guy. I will edit my post. Link to comment
TakingtheBlame Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I don't see why not. If a girl is goofy/playful by nature (with friends and family, for instance) then why wouldn't she be goofy/playful on occasion with her boyfriend? It's part of who she is, even in her non-romantic relationships that don't lead to sex and romance. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Guess i am not very good at explaining myself. Never mind. Link to comment
RedDress Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I understand what you are saying, mouse. You are saying that it seems that every time a girl (or your girlfriend) is playful with you, suddenly she wants your mouse meat. LOL! You are probably right in a certain sense. But I think it has more to do with letting go of your inhibitions, dropping your guard, just having fun. These things are sexy. I guess that's why alcohol works too. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 I understand what you are saying, mouse. You are saying that it seems that every time a girl (or your girlfriend) is playful with you, suddenly she wants your mouse meat. LOL! You are probably right in a certain sense. But I think it has more to do with letting go of your inhibitions, dropping your guard, just having fun. These things are sexy. I guess that's why alcohol works too. Yep. Still didnt understand what i meant. Dont worry about it. It seems people either dont read what i say, or just 'skim' through it anyway. Link to comment
TakingtheBlame Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Yep. Still didnt understand what i meant. Dont worry about it. It seems people either dont read what i say, or just 'skim' through it anyway. I just read through it again and it doesn't sound like a very complicated question.... Sorry if I misunderstood though. (And no I didn't skim it.) Link to comment
RedDress Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Yep. Still didnt understand what i meant. Dont worry about it. It seems people either dont read what i say, or just 'skim' through it anyway. Back in college, in order to graduate, everyone in our program was forced to take a class around interpersonal relations (I work in a very geeky field notorious for producing very geeky people with no interpersonal skills). In this class we sat on pillows and had to do these exercises (I kid you not). One of these exercises was very interesting. We each had to get a glass jar and put our name on it. Then, we each got little pieces of papers and we were told to write exactly what we thought of each person (no holds barred!) and place it in their jar (we all knew each other quite well and had studied together for years). When we got back to our pillows, the teacher said this: "Now, I promise you, that each and every one of you will have at least one paper saying you are a jerk. And you know what? That's ok. You can't get along with everyone in life and that doesn't make you a jerk. But... if you have 5, 6, 7 papers calling you a jerk? Maybe you're a jerk" Soooo... what I am saying here is... if none of us are understanding your question... maybe it's not us, maybe it's you. *wink* Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 Guess i am not very good at explaining myself. Never mind. Once again, i quote myself. Link to comment
Alezia Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 I must be incredibly daft because I don't understand the question. Why would I not be playful in a relationship at times?? I like 'harassing' people in general such as poking fun or making them laugh. It doesn't need to have a sexual ending? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 Can girls be playful in a relationship without it always ending up being sexual? With their partner that is. Im not talking about foreplay, making out or anything. I am talking silly games and being stupid with each other, that isnt anything to do with romance/sex/all those kinds of things? YES, to both questions in bold. Link to comment
90_hour_sleep Posted June 30, 2011 Share Posted June 30, 2011 yah...i don't understand either. but i know what it's like to feel unable to articulate my true sentiments. bit frustrating sometimes. but...if your question is as simple as it seems...i'm just going to go ahead and say YES. it's very possible for a woman to be playful with her significant other without things ultimately turning sexual. i think it's part of being friends in a relationship. it's a sign of comfort. when you can drop the masks...and show yourself as a fun, playful, uninhibited soul...it means you feel safe. and that to me...that safety...is a true measure of success within a relationship. it's a drop in the resitance to vulnerability...which opens the door for a truly authentic connection. sure...sometimes it's bound to lead to a sexual encounter...but why does it have to? i'm thinking that often times sex comes up because it's given so much credit for building intimacy. the false prophet! you might get to that point where you're enjoying each others' company so much that you'd like to take it even further. and sex feels like the natural progression...doesn't it? but...i think sometimes sex gets the credit where credit isn't really due. sex doesn't build intimacy. it's just an extension of intimacy...where intimacy already exisits. and sometimes...it's just a patch for a relationship where intimacy hasn't really evolved...or has become stagnant...or perhaps never existed to begin with. no idea if that's where you were going with this, mouse. it's what came to mind for me. Link to comment
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