Why would he react like this

[paradiselost]

My ex and I broke up 10 months ago and since then he has constantly kept me there - via calls, messages, emails, work visits the lot - however always on his terms and as friends but all this with a hint of who knows what our future holds.

 

I suspect he is dating someone and tell him that if he is we cant be intouch and close as its inappropriate.

 

He denies he seeing anyone.

 

We remain in contact, he suggests meeting but never happens, then I do and he gives me an excuse because of work.

 

In the meantime through fb, gossip etc I pretty much conclude that he is seeing this girl.

 

Around this time he asks to meet! The cheek when I had specifically told him we cant remain close if he is seeing someoen and after he denies it

 

I send him at text message at 1.30 in the morning a day after telling him listen I know you are seeing a girl even though you deny it so what on earth do you want from me by suggesting to meet.

 

He never replies.

 

In the meantime we bump into each socailly and through work and he totally does not speak to me or even say hi - I do the same to him but I am justified - in a way I feel two timed.

 

WHAT ON EARTH IS GOING ON WITH HIM???

 

WHY LIE TO ME ABOUT ANOTHER GIRL AND STILL TRY TO MEET???

 

WHY NOW ACT LIKE HE HATES ME??? DOES HE???

 

Please help me understand.

 

Thanks everyone

[Hollyj]

He's stringing you along. Period! Total ego boost, and you're giving it.

My ex did the same thing with the future crap. They don't want you but, they don't want you to move on, so you will be there back up.

Do yourself a favor and go NC with this guy. Cut off his supply!

If you're 'friends' why does it matter if he is with someone else?

[ForumGuy]

He's stringing you along. Period! Total ego boost, and you're giving it.

My ex did the same thing with the future crap. They don't want you but, they don't want you to move on, so you will be there back up.

Do yourself a favor and go NC with this guy. Cut off his supply!

If you're 'friends' why does it matter if he is with someone else?

Absolutely. Quit responding to anything he says or does. If you cannot avoid him, at work for instance, just smile...say "hi" only if you have to, and be on your way. Continue your life as it was before you met him. He can only play his game with you if you participate.

[HeartGoesOn]

Stop taking the bait!

 

He has you right where he wants you, he's in control and, this will continue for as long as you allow it to. I think your first step would be to stand up and respect yourself, in order to start the healing process. You can do this...

[doyathink]

My ex is doing this too. Cut him off! You have to ignore all the lies....he's playing head games with you.