AsianLove89 Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Ok so last nite me and my hubby was on the fone when he started to talk about sex and how he hasnt had sex in awhile (we havent seen each other 4 about a week due to arguing thats why he hasnt had sex in awhile)...But the part that threw me off was when he said "Baby i havent had sex in so long, this no sex thing WAS drastic you just dont even no"........i stopped him after he said that and i said "Wait a minute....what do you mean "WAS" drastic......shouldnt it still be drastic that you havent had sex in awhile, why are you speaking in past tense"...He studdered and even started laughing a lil nervously and even recited something off the movie that he was watching which had nothing to do with wat we were talking about, also he yelled saying that he didnt want to argue with me about this and that he was just joking when he said "WAS".Am i just trippin or did i just catch him???? Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I think you are trippin and don't use sex as a means to get back at him. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Your trippin. The man was very subtly trying to tell you you guys not having sex was very sudden and he doesn't like it. Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 1st of all no 1 is using sex as a way to get back at him so wat are even talkin about???? we were arguing so he went to cool off at his friends house for a week but im sure if he would have come home sooner we would have had sex.....im trying to figure out why he would speak in past tense about sex as if he had got some while he was out..... Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Your trippin. The man was very subtly trying to tell you you guys not having sex was very sudden and he doesn't like it. i understand wat you mean but shouldnt he have said "is drastic" instead of "was drastic" Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 If he was cheating and getting some new azz on the side do you really think he would be begging you for sex? Seriously think about it.. Link to comment
replytome Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 You sound paranoid and controlling. Tell us, what was the argument about? I have a few guesses... Link to comment
RedDress Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Aside from poor grammar... what makes you think he is cheating? Link to comment
MyNinja Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 It could just be very bad englsh on his part?? I wouldn't read into it too much until some hard evidence surfaces that he's being dishonest. I understand what you were sensing when you heard him say that, but just try to put it out of your mind for now and don't make an issue about it. When you see him, calmly explain how you were taken back by what he said and that you were confused about the meaning and what he meant by it. Try to make it as less complicated as you can. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 You are looking at something that is not there. You are overreacting. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I think you're overreacting. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it. Link to comment
Kitkat973 Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 It sounds complicated. I agree that the wording isn't something that would strike off as cheating to me, though his later actions were a little weird. Why did your mind go directly to him cheating when he said that? Is there something else that makes you think that? Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I agree you're overreacting. Maybe he, ahem, took care of it himself and is embarrassed to admit it. Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 If he was cheating and getting some new azz on the side do you really think he would be begging you for sex? Seriously think about it.. lol are u sure u read my post correctly??? Where in my post did i ever say he was beggin 4 sex????.... Just because he could of possibly cheated doesnt mean he wouldnt still want to have sex with me afterwards so wat are talking about? where married and he still ahs to come home to our house and child....Im thinking the reason he was talking about why he needed sex so bad was to cover up the fact that he was messsing around and make it "look" as if he needed sex since its been so long.....what person would speak in past tense about something there "STILL" going thru?.........4 exmple if i said "Man this "was" soooo depressing" that "was" in my sentence would let you know that im "not" depressed anymore but if i were to say "Man this "is" sooo depressing" that would tell you that im still depressed.....do you get it now? Now my husband said "this no no sex thing "was" drastic" shouldnt it still b drastic if he hasnt done anything??? Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 .do you get it now? Now my husband said "this no no sex thing "was" drastic" shouldnt it still b drastic if he hasnt done anything??? You posted the exact thing twice now. Are you going to keep asking it until someone says "He's definitely cheating on you!" Ok I'll say it He's definitely cheating on you otherwise he wouldn't have said "was" he would have said "is". Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 It sounds complicated. I agree that the wording isn't something that would strike off as cheating to me, though his later actions were a little weird. Why did your mind go directly to him cheating when he said that? Is there something else that makes you think that? I hardly ever accuse him of doing anything...im actually very calm and let him hang out with his boys until early in th morning because i trust him like that but when something strikes me as odd...i address it...If some1 says "That was depressing" lets you know that there not depressed anymore but if they say "that is depressing" lets you no that there still depressed bout it....the fact that he said "was tells me that he had relieved his sexual tension in someway.... thats why my ind went directly to cheating because we were talking about sex Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 You posted the exact thing twice now. Are you going to keep asking it until someone says "He's definitely cheating on you!" Ok I'll say it He's definitely cheating on you otherwise he wouldn't have said "was" he would have said "is". If your so botherd by my psting then leave the page llits that simple Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 If your so botherd by my psting then leave the page llits that simple Your post doesn't bother me at all. I'm just trying to help. Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 I agree you're overreacting. Maybe he, ahem, took care of it himself and is embarrassed to admit it. He is very open with that topic of relieving himself....but his studdering and weird behavier after i accused him is another factor....wouldnt he have just corrected himself instead of studdering and reciting movie lines??? Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 Your post doesn't bother me at all. I'm just trying to help. your last post was helpful at all....just rude Link to comment
giraffegirl Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 his first part of the sentence was "Baby i havent had sex in so long" if he had been cheating it would have been "hadn't not haven"t you are way overreacting to nothing Link to comment
tresqua Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 your last post was helpful Thank you. Link to comment
AsianLove89 Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 Thank you. u really must have no life....i obviously on here upset about something an your not making it any better.....just leave the page please Link to comment
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