TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I really sinked in my head that this is what you really wanted!! For you to change your number and address this is what you really wanted!! Even though your job gave me your new number and I harrassed you nonstop for 1 week until last weekend I went cold turkey!! Why am I texting when you won't text back why am I calling when you won't answer or call me back I mean I called Your phone 1000 times and you would not answer!! Wow!! You really mean it huh!! And here I am thinking hoping you would text call say something I'm tired of holding my breath til I'm red blue green in the face but then I realized this brother changed his CELL NUMBER!! THIS IS WHAT YOU REALLY WANTED!! A LIFE WITHOUT ME!!! Link to comment
ForumGuy Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Good idea to exit where you are not wanted...... Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 You sound like a stalker! I can see why he changed his number! Time to get your dignity back and move on! Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Yeah it's probably a good idea if you just let this one be. If he went so far as to change his number, he's sending you a clear message he doesn't want anything to do with you. I'm sorry you are hurting, but going crazy on him isn't going to make him change his mind. Link to comment
mouseno4 Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Wow. So much anger. Think i would be glad for NC in this case. Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Not a stalker but a women tooken really by surprise I Mean how can I be a stalker when hours before he changed his number he just texted from class he can't Wait to see me??? I wanted answers!! But hey it is what it is just let them do ya all kinds ah ways and just turn ya cheek!! Lol!! I think not!! I got some answers when I went through his chain of command (military) about his behavior maybe he'd think twice about the next women he tries to hurt!!! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 "Even though your job gave me your new number and I harrassed you nonstop for 1 week until last weekend I went cold turkey!! Why am I texting when you won't text back why am I calling when you won't answer or call me back I mean I called Your phone 1000 times and you would not answer!!" "I got some answers when I went through his chain of command (military) about his behavior ." I am using your own words. If someone had not contacted me after a couple of calls, I would not pursue. I think contacting his job was really going overboard. The guy sounds like a jerk. Good riddance! Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I'm really suprised the military even gave you that kind of information. Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Oh you would be surprise they(marines) have a zero tolerance when it comes to the mistreat of wives girlfriends etc! Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Oh yes holly I'm done and yes I have did those things am I ashame hell no!! I demanded answer from him and was not going to stop until he gave me an explanation it's up enuff of women and men playing with eachother feelings and emotion I mean come on I was not going to just turn the cheek until he gave me sum answers and now that I have them I am moving on but the sting is still there I'm rubbing it with ice!!!! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I said nothing about turning the other cheek but, your behavior was over the top. I wouldn't put so much energy into someone who had treated me so disrespectfully. Link to comment
Tired Tiger Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Oh you would be surprise they(marines) have a zero tolerance when it comes to the mistreat of wives girlfriends etc! Um... well, be that as it may - He's married. The whole "Duty, Honor, Commitment" credo is going to apply to that fact - not to the jilted other woman. Sorry you're hurting, but going that route (especially with the intent of 'teaching him a lesson') is immature and disrespectful on your part. I know, I know.. "but he did...". It doesn't matter what he did. You need to get a grip on yourself, if for no other reason to be the best role model for your 9 year old possible. Counseling wouldn't be the worst idea. Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 It does matter what he did!!!! At some point he need to take responsibility for his action! yes i understand the hes married part and yet but still his sgt.major felt I had a value point and was IMPORTANT enough to make him come in to explain his actions!! Thats no way to treat someone you claimed to love! Please dont act like you have never been on this end of the fence cause i dont think you would be on this forum if you didnt and do understand people handle situations differently! Im learning and growing from this whole ordeal! And by no means my actions towards the coward does not take away from me being a THE BEST role model for my daughter! She was no where around when this took place! Dont need counseling the men and women out here who come into people lives turn it upside down and leave total distraught is the ones who NEED COUNSELING!!! please and thank you....... come again!! Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 yeah well were different! i wanted answers and was confuse so i wanted to know what he was going through apart of me didnt want to believe the reality of it all it felt like a nightmare! Im not the only one whos been hurt and put SO MUCH ENERGY into someone who did them wrong or experience pure pain! The way i handle it was the way i felt at the time! and like i said im growing and learning from this situation! this was a first for me! I apologise I didnt read the manual on how to act when getting DUMPED!!! Link to comment
learning2relax Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 TP4T, While the way he went about ending the relationship may not be nice and what you have preferred, however what you are doing is spiraling out of control. Just step back and ask yourself, if the shoe was on the other foot (and I am NOT saying that you would do this to someone else) with someone that you no longer wanted to be with taking the actions you are taking, how willing would you be to talk to them? They would appear out of control and if there is any chance that you would want to talk to them, you might decide to wait until they calmed down because what good can come out of attempting to communicate when you are doing these things. This reminds me of a saying that I tend to read when I feel my anxiety is getting the best of me and I am being impulsive of considering impulsive actions......"Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% how you react to it." Consider stopping what you are doing and calming down. Please. For you, for your daughter.....heck, for everyone involved. Think about it - that is all I ask. Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 that was three weeks ago! when the situation first happened and i have not contacted him in about week and dont plan too ever again! yes that correct i acted out of impulse straight out of character! im healing and learning! Link to comment
learning2relax Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Healing is good. Do everything to stay on that path. There are times in the healing process where the pain will resurface. I have learned that working through the process is not linear. And with love being as blind as it is, it can make us all do things we regret. Keep on the straight and narrow. It is tough but I know you can do it. Take care... Link to comment
Tired Tiger Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 And by no means my actions towards the coward does not take away from me being a THE BEST role model for my daughter! Well, okay, but... MY 9YR OLD DAUGHTER KNOWS, SEES, AND FEELS OF THE PAIN IM GOING THROUGH. SHE TRIES HER BEST TO MAKE ME LAUGH, SMILE, CHEER UP, ETC. BUT I PUSH HER AWAY! I JUST WANT TO BE ALONE! I JUST WANT TO MOURN THIS DEALTH OF MY RELATIONSHIP! LAY IN MY TEARS WADDLE IN MY PITTY! Just sayin. Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 i see where your going with this!! my daughter have seen my emotions and feelings but have not seen my actions that took place (TOWARDS MY EX)! we all have feelings and emotions thats nothin we can hide at times!! but i mean how is that not being a role model if im human and may display some emotions!!! come better than that!!! #imjustsaying!!! Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Thanks very encouraging!! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 I don't understand where you are coming off as the moral authority, if he's married! You are the OW and have no say, his wife does! You need to take responsibility for sleeping with a married man. What kind of example are you setting for your child? You're turning your own life upside down by getting involved with a MM. Very selfish! Link to comment
TOOPRETTY4THIS Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 Like I said HOLLYj if you was to read my other post (obvious you didnt or you wouldnt be running off at the mouth like you know the situation) I did not know at the time he was married but once I found out about it me and the wife spoke and their going through separation then divorce standard procedure! But anyway I do have a say this is my life and I deal with it the way I know how!! My life is not upside down lol!! Your miserable and find pleasure stalking my post with your negative remarks which is fine if you like it I love it wat ever floats your boat baby!! If coming to my post gives you the satisfaction than by all means go for it maybe it takes the place of your loneliness!! Normally I would block you but I'm going to let you relieve your fustration out on my post!! Your welcome!! Come again!! Link to comment
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