Tired of Bullies

[25thfloor]

So I have this friends, we used to be fairly close, on a social level. We saw each other for dinner and wine etc. She's been very short and nasty to me and a few others lately, and quite frankly, I've had enough. The last straw was at a function over the weekend, and I had a glass of wine in my hand (she drove to the event) and she said loudly, in front of everyone, 'which drink is that, I don't want to carry you up the stairs to your house'.....now, I am better friends with the folks that were there, but if looks could kill, she'd be a goner right now. I was very calm and said 'well, you've never had to do that before so I'm not sure why your worried about it now' and proceeded down the buffet line. I was furious. At the same time she bugging my other girlfriend (who rode with us)...to actually drink more! Later on that night, the majority of us went swimming, and she, of course did not. I knew something would be said to my other girlfriend and it was. As soon as jumped in the water, she said 'well, I suppose we'll be here another 30 minutes!'....I know! How horrific! The funny thing about this is, she hates to drive alone or walk in alone anywhere....me....I couldn't care less. The way I see it, I don't need to be around undermining folks and bullies who try to put you down. It's very easy for me to see her in my social circle, but she'll be driving alone from here on out. I'm just getting so sick and tired of being around rude negative folks....in a large social circle. argh.

[Seraphim]

The way to shut down a bully is not to play their game. You are right, do not let her drive you anymore then she has nothing to complain about. My in-laws are like that. It drove me around the BEND. Whenever the group of us go anywhere my father-in-law wants to drive, so he can control what the family group does. Even though we are in our 40's and have our own 2 cars he wants to play this game that he is the big grand high poobah. So because HE is driving and HE is paying( never because we ask, ever), but he loves to be the big cheese, we were stuck listening to him have his temper tantrums about not getting his way about whatever. After a few trips of him traveling to 5 different eating establishments because he is not happy about the waiting time or the waitress was not serving him 30 seconds after his bottom hit the seat( I mean this absolutely literally) and getting up and walking out, I have learned that it is MUCH better if we drive ourselves and when he wants to play his temper tantrum games we can go home.

[Leftright]

I have a 'friend' like that. He likes to put me down all the time, ... I just ignore it, and pay him no mind if he starts up. My advice. Do the same.

 

-LR