Confused

[Nowill]

Venting

Just cant get my mind around this, 2 years of bliss , with no warnings or red flags , you now cant go on with this .

Two weeks ago before our breakup you tell me that I am everything in the world to you , and the more you get to know me the better our relationship is becoming .

You tell me that Please I must not break your heart ( If I do you know people who will take you out , I know it was said as a joke ). You introduce me to your daughter , which is the most valuable thing in your life

And then just because I did not sms you on the weekend when I had my boys as much as I did previously , you breakup , your opinion was that it felt as if I was putting you on hold for the weekend . How could you have said that you loved me , was it all a lie

[Nowill]

Am a being unreasonable or delusional ?

[CatsMeeoow]

Sometimes its best (though hardest I know) to step back and not think of it so much as you did something wrong but what was the other person going through?

 

If she truly ended because you weren't keeping in contact "enough" over a weekend it sounds like she is someone who is very needy? Has she always been this needy? If yes then it really shouldn't surprise you, but if no why is it that suddenly she is? People/relationships can go through phases where a partner may indeed become very needy which could be due to nothing more than outside stress or perceived stress. Is this behavior out of character for her? I mean if you have been together for 2yrs then you should know if she is acting out of sorts or not.

 

I'm sorry for the hurt you are feeling. All you can do at this point is take care of yourself and your kids. Give her some time and space to work through what is really getting her this way.

 

Good Luck

[Nowill]

Hi CatsMeeeow , thanks for replying.

She never seemed to be very needy , but now that I have stepped back and reviewing the relationship one thing that has come out , Is when I told her that I loved her , she always asked Why . ( Was this a sign of insecurity ) . I never gave her a reason to doubt my love for her

[CatsMeeoow]

It could be a sign of insecurity but it could also be a way for you to be expressive and what I mean by that is...

 

You - "I love you"

Her - "you do? but why"

You - "its the way your smile lights up a room, how you interact with my boys, the way you laugh then snort sets my insides on fire"

 

Its easy to go "I love you"... "then I love you too"... but sometimes we woman just want inside your head a little and wonder what it is that makes you stick around... especially on our off days and boy do we all have off days!

 

If its a constant asking of "do you love me" or constantly asking "why" then I do feel its more related to insecurity issues.

[Nowill]

CatsMeeow, Its a Complicated situation , if you could read my earlier post maybe this could give you more perspective on my situation would dearly like to hear your opinion as it does seem to me that she was insecure. (My cheating wife was a beautiful woman and I think this is also a problem)

[Nowill]

Do I stay with NC and move on , or have hope ?

[Nowill]

I am so down in the dumps at the moment , Me and my GF have broken off our relationship , but the biggest issue I have is that my soon to be EX has been dragging this divorce for two and a half years , after she was the one who had numerous affairs in our 20 years of marriage . she emotionally , financially abused me throughout our relationship. I have given her 5 fair offers for maintenance , including giving her the house , half my pension , basically everything . She has swopped to three different lawyers . I just feel as if she is reaching out from the grave , holding me back from starting my life over .She has already had two relationships with wealthy gentlemen , which I have learnt about , but Lucky for them they could see through her and unlucky for me . I have just ended the most amazing relationship due to this lengthy Divorce. What does this woman want from me ?