No Contact and what it Means Exactly?

[Themegchan]

A few weeks ago I posted this thread: talking about how my ex broke up with me out of nowhere and I was devastated and blah blah blah.

 

I've had some time to get over it, done what I could to move on, and now I'm feeling a bit better. I tried the whole "no contact" rule that everyone preaches so much. I didn't text him, email him, deleting him off facebook/twitter and everything else I could to make sure I wasn't in his life.

 

I didn't think it would work, but out of nowhere tonight (roughly over two weeks later) I get a message from him on OKCupid (where we met) asking how I'm doing.

 

I'm not sure what to do or think of it. I'm trying not to read too much into it. Should I ignore it, respond, or wait a few days?

 

Any advice on this would help out a lot. Thanks!

[Mustachio]

No contact isnt a rule per se. Its a guideline to help you adjust to your life without your ex and really and truly start to heal and move on with your life.

 

If I am reading your other post correctly, you dated for 2 weeks, and havent talked to him in 2 weeks. I hate to say it, but this seems almost like a non issue, you should be able to get over this guy in no time at all, I mean afterall you only knew him for two weeks.

 

Ask yourself these questions. Do you want to give him another shot at dating? Do you possibly want to pursue a friendship? If the answer to either of those is no, dont respond. If yes, sure, respond and find out what he wants. Honestly though, based on your other post, it sounds like you should just move on, which should take all of a couple weeks.

[ForumGuy]

I don't think you should respond. If you think you could feel good about starting to date him again, make him pursue you a bit more. At this point, he could easily just be stroking his own ego at your expense.