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NC is forever, my friend. They say GIGS dumpers always make contact, and it is a lie. I am testament to that lie.


There is no chance for reconciliation, so long as you think there is a chance for reconciliation. Perverse, huh?


Just realise - it's over. Acceptance is the hardest bit.


The person your partner is, the relationship - they're dead. Mourn and move on.

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I read this question ALL THE TIME on this forum. NC is not a strategy you use to get the other person back.

The point of NC is to create enough distance between yourself and your ex so that you can get on with your life and stop thinking about them. After a few weeks, or months of NC, you realise how long it has been since you've thought about them, and then you begin to accept that you aren't together, and won't be getting back together. Then, after that, (sometimes before that!) you realise you don't even want to be with them.


If you break up with someone, you do it for a reason. If you regret it, well, too bad. Often we don't know what we've got until it's gone - but if you don't realise how much someone means to you, you don't deserve them anyway.

And on the other hand, if someone leaves you - it's because they doubted the relationship, even if just for a day, they doubted it, and thus, good riddance to them! Move on, and find someone who deserves you.

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My ex (dumper) contacted me first after about 5 weeks and wanted to be friends and start over "slowly", to which I naively agreed. Lasted about a week as she was totally disrespectful. She was pissed when I ended the so-called "friendship". A year and some change later, I still hear from her once in awhile wanting to be friends, but quit returning contacts several months ago. I know, not exactly what your question was....just my NC story. NC has helped me more than I could have imagined when I was new to this site.

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My ex decided to fall for my bestfriend. They dated for 1 1/2. 6 months after SHE cheated on him (hahaha... oh that felt so wrong and right at the same time) He contacted me and wanted to get back together. Flowers and candles everywhere. Every nice word I'd ever wanted to hear and it just wasn't enough. So no,we didn't reconcille. But we are very close and stay in contact. Weird I know.

so nearly 2 years of NC before contact.

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I held out hope just like you and always wondered the same.


Its been over a year of NC for me and if my ex never contacts me again it will be too soon.


Accept that its truly over and done with. Only then can you move on, and ironically, only then can you get back together if your ex ever does come back. Before then and there is no way it would ever work.

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