lakerfan3118 Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 hello all, i'm kind of stuck in a sticky situation here. my girlfriend got off of work in the evening and since her father left for work, she was out of a ride home. her waiting for the bus, and it getting dark, i took it upon myself to call a cab for her, meet her there, and pay for it, albeit without asking her. big mistake; that decision ended turning into an argument between the two of us in which she denied the taxi outright and got angry for not asking her first. is this a justified response? i thought i was doing the right thing, but it obviously wasn't received that way and its making me question whether my deeds are being appreciated. or should I be the one apologizing? Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Why on earth would she be angry? What did she say? Link to comment
elcie Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 They say that chivalry is dead! But is it actually a case of....the appreciation of chivalry is dead! I can't count the number of times a courtesy goes unacknowledged. It's such a shame because it makes you less inclined to do it next time. Your girlfriend should NOT have got angry! She shouldn't take your thoughtfulness for granted. Link to comment
lakerfan3118 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 Why on earth would she be angry? What did she say? she was most angry at the fact that i didn't ask her first. i understand maybe i should have, but i honestly had her safety as my first priority, you know? and this is sort of a recurring problem as well. a few months ago she blew up in a similar fashion because i brought her lunch without asking. honestly, it kind of hurts my feelings when stuff like this happens because im trying to do something nice and it gets received the wrong way. Link to comment
whes Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 ... I don't even understand why she would be angry. Why is she upset? Link to comment
lakerfan3118 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 ... I don't even understand why she would be angry. Why is she upset? i'm not even sure, but i do know (firsthand!) she's ultra independent. maybe she read me calling the cab as a way of undermining her? my first instinct as a boyfriend was to look after her, so i guess the conflict was there? Link to comment
whes Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Reads more as insecure than ultra independent to me... I always wonder at people who can't accept compliments, help, kindness or favours. Can you talk to her about this sort of thing and get her to understand that you really did mean it as a kindness and not as an offence? Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 I remember many years ago when I was married to my ex husband, I was very pregnant and working in downtown LA. I would get off work at midnight and I had to walk 4 blocks through skid row to get a bus to go home. He wouldn't come for me and certainly never called me a cab. What you did was very sweet and if she can't appreciate what a good man you are, I bet there are 100 women out there that would. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 It seems your kind acts are not appreciated by this woman. I agree with Metro, most women would be very appreciative. You just need to find one of THOSE women. Link to comment
He2Him Posted June 27, 2011 Share Posted June 27, 2011 Reads more as insecure than ultra independent to me... This. She's stuck up and got issues she's trying to cover up with her ultra independence. Link to comment
lakerfan3118 Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 thanks a ton you guys. she went to sleep without sending me a good night text (which means she's upset), but your comments have made things a bit easier. truly appreciate it. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Are there other nice gestures you do for her that make her angry? Link to comment
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