After 4 years she just moved on in a week...

[TommyJr]

I am actually at a point in my life where i have left all my friends and family behind along with my girlfriend of 4 years to study...i was so contempt with my life that i didnt see the need to really get attached to people go to party's bars. And then the girl who i loved and still love the most in the world suggested a break... after then i saw her once on her birthday as she was almost begging me to come because i meant so much to her (I had to travel 250miles to go there) that she wants me there... while i was there i stayed with her and we agreed that for the duration of my stay we would be together as a couple because i couldn;t bear the sight of her flirting dancing with some other guy...So we made a pact...as the night progressed i didn't want to be pushy all our friends where there she was talking having fun with the group, i didn't want to just grab her hand and fallow her like a dog... so i spent a lot of time at the bar hopping that she'll make the first social move...i waited 2 hours...i went down for a smoke when i came back she was literally grinding on one of my friends there...she saw me come in and sit down at a table...she knew i was looking and she knew how it made me feel, as for my friends congrats to him for hitting on her, with no shame they continued dancing...and i swear she slapt her on the ass. I didnt want to make a big deal since i was thinking we all had something to drink and if i start acting all crazy i ruin any chances of us getting back together ever...so i gently brought it up and she acted like nothing abnormal happened...still we spent our last night together, wondering that during sex was i really the one on her mind...the next day i left we said our goodbyes we said i love you one more time. A week later i find out that the break was actually a break up... and that she already made out with that friend of mine...at least that's what she admits too...no reply from the guy even tough i wanted to get in touch with him...How can she do that???...i know this whole story makes my sound pathetic and desperate, but the truth is she did mean the world to we where THE couple everyone envy'd. After only one year after she got kicked out of her home.. homeless no family could take her in i invited her to live with me for as long as she needed... so we did for 2.5 years, everything was so good...all the memories everything... I just cant seem to function anymore... everyone knew she got together with him no1 told me they where making fun of me... For days now i am crushed to the point that i cant do anything... I was always a romantic at heart and i believed in true love... and even know can barely cry anymore my heart is always racing i cant stop thinking of her...i always wonder if she even gives a * * * * about me.... we used to hold hands always everyday... now when i go out of the apartment my hand moves to the side just a bit as if her hand was there, and after i come to my senses i just feel crushed... I actually feel i have nothing left to live for. I lost the love of my life the only girl i actually felt real love for... 25 now and i feel i have nothing else to do... i cant study couldn't work it takes a miracle that i can get every day... i cant sleep i cant eat... I AM JUST LOST. i worked so hard to make this work she did too and yet she can kiss my friend in a week drunk... i cant even talk to anyone anymore i cant move on because i still love her and forgeting her this soon would be an insult of the 4 years together. So its a choice of living a life depressed sad and alone and well you know... i don't have the will to go on anymore... and the only thing that i can think of that gives me reason to stick around is revenge... but i couldn't even hurt her so that is not really a choice... thanks to everyone for reading this and if anyone can give me anything or had a similar heartbreak please help...

[Someday_Soon]

When women suggest some downtime or "a break" that's never a good omen. Maybe she got tired of you not being around and is the type of person that needs to have face time 5 or 6 days out of the week. I guess it was sort of cold to hit on your friend right in front of you, but feelings do change and we have all seen many relationships go sour in the 20s age group. I hope one day you get a more thorough explanation of what was going through her mind so you can have some closure. Maybe the behavior that got her kicked out of her own house came back to haunt you.

[20sgal88]

..we used to hold hands always everyday... now when i go out of the apartment my hand moves to the side just a bit as if her hand was there, and after i come to my senses i just feel crushed... I actually feel i have nothing left to live for. I lost the love of my life the only girl i actually felt real love for... 25 now and i feel i have nothing else to do... i cant study couldn't work it takes a miracle that i can get every day... i cant sleep i cant eat... I AM JUST LOST...

 

I am so sorry. That is just heart breaking. While I haven’t experienced the exact situation, when my boyfriend and I fight, that’s EXACTLY how I feel. What you said about no appetite, no sleep, just feeling lost and empty.

 

Those emotions SUCK! They pretty much turn you into a zombie. I get this tightness, this tension in my chest and my stomach aches and I feel literally sick. I get to the point where the tears won’t even come. I’m just shell-shocked and soulless.

 

I just fought with my boyfriend this weekend. He tried to drop me off home and I just wandered down the street in the dark feeling utter despair. We “made up” but somehow, I still feel like our troubles remain unsolved. We have also been together for about four years.

 

And this * * * * most certainly does affect your studying and work! I’ve failed classes and got in trouble with my boss at work because of the emotional state I was left in. I can’t even imagine what the hell I’d do if I saw him just move on that quick…and WITH ONE OF MY FRIENDS?!!!!!!!!!!!

 

There’s not much I can say that can console you, man. Just know that at least some people are reading your thoughts and are trying to find comparisons to their own lives. Maybe you’ll get an even better post from someone who’s been in the exact situation and they can at least give you a sense of true camaraderie and that you are not alone.

 

When you get in a relationship, that person becomes your whole world. And if that relationship is ever threatened or terminated, you feel as if you yourself have been threatened or terminated. But it’s a BIG, * * * * ING world out there. And don’t you forget it. I can’t imagine how * * * * ty you feel now but:

 

When one of my boyfriend’s friends got broken up with by his girlfriend, (and this girl was a * * * * * ! Cheated on him, gave him Chlamydia, and then broke up with HIM!), he hung out with my boyfriend and I. We went to a park and hiked up to the highest part of this small mountain that looked out over the valley.

 

We sat there for a minute and watched the sun set. My boyfriend’s friend was just devastated and was staring down at the ground in silence. My boyfriend picked up a pebble and said to his friend, “You see this? This is ‘whatever-the-hell-her-name-was, I don’t remember now’.” She has been your life for the past while.” (I know they were together for a long time. At least five years, maybe more.)

 

“Look at her, this pebble—and now, take a look around you at the rest of the world.” The sun was setting majestically behind the mountains. The valley looked so vast and endless, teeming with millions of flickering lights. Somewhere out there, in the distance, life was moving on; consistently, stubbornly, un-halting. I think there was a sense of comfort in that rhythm. That steady flow that kept flowing even though the inside of him felt dead.

 

With that, my boyfriend heaved her—the minute little pebble into the darkness. It was swallowed up by the incumbent vastness that is this world.