Injured Lion Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 She broke NC. My Ex texted me to not get drunk. I'm not a drinker but I think she's scared I might start drinking because of the break up. I haven't responded to her text yet. How should I respond? Or should I even respond back?
lastshot20 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I don't think you should respond to this. Yeah she may care but not enough to be with you. Listen to the great advice you get on here from the other posters. I bet you if you respond, you will not hear from her for another 2 weeks ( Ego stroke).
HeartGoesOn Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 She lost the privilege of being in your life, when she made the choice to breakup with you. It's her job to deal with the consequences of that choice...not yours.
Bigchief Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 I think that you should respond, you should imply that you are doing great and no chance of turning to booze etc. Also make the point that you should continue NC after this as you both need time to think. She needs to see that you can go one without her and that NC could become permamnet unless you get back. I am assuming , you want to get back etc...let her know you are going to the gym or doing something positive and that you are not falling apart. No Contact is really important but now you have a chance to show her that your life is going well and you can cope. Who broke it off? When do you expect her to break no contact? When she decides that she wants to be with you again 100%? She clearly is still thinking about you. My advise is break NC, expect a response- respond to her response and then back to NC. Be nice, polite and positive. If she texts you again in the next few weeks (which she will) then do not respond, your lack of response will mean a lot more then. Best of luck, NC sucks but it works. I dont agree with "absolute" NC tho. Maybe wait to see what other say also
somegirl30 Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 She texted you saying not to get drunk? It would make me mad if my ex did that. I can get drunk if I want and it is something I enjoy doing on occasion. She has no right to tell you not to get drunk. You're a big boy and can make your own decisions.
Oasiswater Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Am I the only one that feels like his ex was trying to be nasty by sending that message? I'm assuming that she dumped you, correct? I kinda feel like she's almost rubbing it in his face like, "Don't go getting all drunk or anything because I dumped you." Regardless, whether she was trying to be mean or not, forget it. Don't even bother replying.
imonlyhuman Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 She texted you saying not to get drunk? It would make me mad if my ex did that. I can get drunk if I want and it is something I enjoy doing on occasion. She has no right to tell you not to get drunk. You're a big boy and can make your own decisions. YEA! but um... its prolly better if you don't get TOO drunk, so you don't make any bad decisions.
fire2therain Posted June 26, 2011 Posted June 26, 2011 Don't respond. Don't lose the progress you've made!
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