Over before it started?

[christinagraha]

I met a guy when I was travelling recently, we had an amazing connection and we decided we must meet up when he finishes his travels after the summer. We spoke on email and skype for the few weeks up until now and decided it definitely was not just a holiday fling and that we were basically meant for each other. In the past two weeks he has not contacted me and I have sent him a few emails one was asking why. He kept making dates to speak online and then never did. Then I tried to skype him when he was online and he just cancelled my call. After this I emailed him pouring my heart out, telling him how I felt and now I still have't heard from him.

 

Now I know many of you will say that this was just a holiday fling and he's lost interest. I knew though he felt really strongly about me. When we spoke the first few times he was asking if we were a couple and said he was scared someone would steal me whilst he was away. He then claimed he missed me too much and that I should join him. Later we decided it was best for us to meet up when he got back home so we could be alone and we could see if we still liked each other after the months.

 

Now my question is, what do I do now? I feel like I really messed things up by trying to contact him when really, he's away travelling so he can't talk that easily. Then I sent this huge email pouring my heart out to him when really I should have just left it and I think he would have contacted me. Of course we barely know each other as we only spent one week together so my actions have basically made me look a bit paranoid and crazy.

 

I don't know what to do because I really think this guy is the one for me and I know he was thinking the same thing.

 

Help!

 

Thank you in advance.

[_Asti_]

He WAS thinking the same thing, and clearly no longer is.

 

It was a travel fling, I think thats pretty evident. You were only together a week. He probably said a bunch of things because you were saying it, and the lovey dovey excitment wore off and has cease contact.

 

If he really was into it, he wouldn't be blowing you off, making plans then cancelling them.

 

What do you do? Stop contacting him and see what happens. If he's into you, wants to 'be with you' eventually meet up with you, he will make the effort. Stop putting yourself out there to someone who isn't returning the effort. I think then you'll see what is really there.

[ut804]

I agree with Asti.

 

You need to stop contact. let him contact you now since you were putting in all the effort. if you don't hear from him then you have your answer.

[piruru]

Hate to say it but he has lost interest NOW. Whatever he felt for you before, is now called "THE PAST", at least for him. The more you contact him and push for answers, the more he will pull away and avoid you. It is over in his mind.

 

Best to go NC until (if ever) he contacts you.

[JeckyllNHyde]

That really sucks.

I have to agree with the others that his actions are pretty much saying everything. If someone wants to make things work they will, even if they aren't able to talk. For instance: he was on Skype and could have easily msg'd you back saying he can't talk or answered briefly.

 

Maybe he got caught in the moment when you where there, and suddenly when you left his mindset changed. It happens, though that doesn't make it less painful.

 

Contacting him anymore may not make things better, and could push him away. I think if you already sent him an email pouring your heart out, it's best to leave it be. And if you need some form of closure just send a short, brief goodbye mail - without expectations of hearing back though, judging from his recent actions.