Applewhite Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 I have a friend from highschool. We weren't too close becaue I was at that school for only a year and she was in 10th grade while I was in 9th. WE were close enough to have shared some conversations and socialized at some school events. We have many common friends whom neither of us see much anymore because we both live in the US, while they live back in our home country. Recently I've been wanting to reconnect with her (we were already facebook friends but I've been wanting to meet her by either going to her state or inviting her over) because I remember really liking her personality and I realize we may have a lot more in common than we thought back then. Anyway after messaging her one day I realized I wasn't on her friends list so I thought it was just a Facebook thing (you know a little quirk in the system or whatever). So I asked her to add me (and she did). But then I realized all our highschool friends were off her list and there was only about 20ish people on her list (when I'm sure there was much more before) - just family and local friends probably. So I am wondering what happened to her. She has really stopped responding to me since she re-added me on her list. Why did she delete all her friends? Why won't she talk to me? Is something wrong? Did she join a cult? ---What is going on? She did get married a couple of years ago but that was way before she deleted all her friends. I really want to reconnect with her but I am out of options at this point. Is there anything else I can do say? I really don't want to give up, but it seems like I have to?? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 How long has it been since you saw her? Link to comment
Applewhite Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Last I saw her in person was a long time ago. In high school. Why? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 That could be why. I have not seen some friends since high school. I get contact from them or me to them may be once every few years. I am cool with that and so are they. I have no burning need to forge an in person relationship with some one I knew over 27 years ago and have not seen since. We probably have very little in common other than what we knew of each other at that time. That does not mean I dislike them at all. I just prefer to live in today and they live over 3000 miles away from me. May be she is the same? Link to comment
Applewhite Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Yes last time I saw her in person was about 10 (not 30) years ago, however and we have spoken since then a few times. There is a RECENT change in her behaviour. So I don't think your comments are very relevant, thanks anyway. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Well I hope you find out. cheers. Link to comment
Oneironaut Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Some people simply let go of old friendships. I know, because I'm one of them. It doesn't mean she's joined a cult or anything. You should probably just chalk it up to her being one of those people, and let it go. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Some people simply let go of old friendships. I know, because I'm one of them. It doesn't mean she's joined a cult or anything. You should probably just chalk it up to her being one of those people, and let it go. That is me too. If you are not going to be an every day part of my life, I want to live in today. It is not that you do not like the person.It is simply if a person has missed close to half your life, really what do have in common whether that half of a life was 10 years ago or 27. Some people do not feel like trying to resurrect old relationships and may be she realized this. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 But then I realized all our highschool friends were off her list and there was only about 20ish people on her list (when I'm sure there was much more before) - just family and local friends probably It sounds to me like she's chosen to keep her facebook account on a more personal level for family and close friends only. I wouldn't worry about her or take it personally. Link to comment
mdog Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 i agree. I would not take it personally. I delete people that i havent talked to on facebook in awhile. I have been out of highschool for 2 years and I have about 10 people on facebook from highschool. Yea, i talked to a lot of people in my classes (and got really close to a lot of them), but im not going to add them because they were in my english class from freshmen year and we havent talked since then. Ya know? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Maybe she has another, unsearchable facebook profile that has her friends on it. Link to comment
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