PrincessBOT Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Do stay in contact and be constantly reminded that you can't be together and know all the details of the life without you. Don't stay in contact and long for the smallest of contact just to have a small piece of what used to be even it can never be. It is maddening! Link to comment
Live-N-Learn Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 True but you are much less tortured by staying out of contact. Link to comment
LP90 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Absolutely no contact. There isnt one positive thing about staying in contact with an Ex love. You wont be able to move on if you do. It will only build up hope and/or bring you down when you see new developments in their life without you or worse yet, with someone else. Link to comment
PrincessBOT Posted June 25, 2011 Author Share Posted June 25, 2011 Yes indeed,less torture to stay away. Guess it's just one of those breakdown days.... Went on a date last night and it was just empty. Just didn't compare, none have...What are you suppose to do when you've moved on a long, long time ago, but no one compares? Not actively comparing, just the disappointments are a constant reminder of the last time when I wasn't disappointed and it causes a chain reaction which cause a reaction to reach back, ugggghhh..... I will not, because tomorrow is a new day and I will be over this and be kicking myself if I actually did it, but today...right now, it seems like an okay idea.... Link to comment
Carus Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Stay strong Princess* You've already come so far...x 8-) Link to comment
Melting Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Learning to let go of the the one you care for, is one of the hardest things to do. But you will never move forward if you make contact and find out what it going on in their lives, you will merely just open another chapter and that will be added to the hurt you are still going through. Be strong... Link to comment
ForumGuy Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Going NC is the best choice I ever made, even though it did not seem like it at first. I remember my ex wanting to be friends after the break-up....me trying it, and it bringing one heartache/headache after another. The friendship thing lasted about a week before I cut contact. I loved her alot and it hurt alot, but life has continually gotten better since going NC. Link to comment
annieperson Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Oh Princess I know what you are going through. By staying in the "friendship" zone with the man that was my soul mate is so difficult. He thinks nothing of showing me all the new clothes he bought after he lost like 60 lbs and I drove him to the clinic to get his lasik eye surgery. I have to listen to all his stories about all the things he is doing now when before he was always too tired to do anything. He treats me like I am just someone he knows and not the one that he once called his best friend and soul mate for life. but going NC seems like not even an option. Even though when I am in the midst of his life I wonder what the heck I am doing there and why I am putting myself through the torture. Maybe its just to be in his life for even a brief moment. Maybe by simply being in his prescence he will suddenly look over at me and take me in his arms and tell me he can no longer live without me. But probably not. Be strong. Link to comment
sada88 Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 I have a friend that dated this girl for about 4 years. They mostly had an on-off relationship but predominately on. The girl loved him but she wasn't "in-love" with him anymore, he was too passive-aggressive and engaged in "joking insults". Anyway, she broke up with him with a lot of tears and whatnot. He decides to be her friend for 1 year and got to listen to her talk about all the gruesome details about her new relationships. Let me put it this way, her new relationships? Yea...the guys aren't what you call the top of the mark nor has she a satisfying relationship since him. Anyway, after one really bad relationship, she told him she regrets leaving him but won't get back together because the reason why they broke up are still there. Anyway, he is slowly realizing that he has to let her go because it is hurting way too much to stay in contact. So...I guess this is a story for: let's not go into the friend zone to hear all the horrible details. Link to comment
Bungle UK Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 Hence, wasting days, months, years of your life... Just no point. Respect is the basis of any relationship, be it with a partner, colleague or even a friend. Once you break up, the respect for each other dies. Simple... You just can't be friends. Link to comment
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