Depression

[Klept]

Hi everyone, you may have seen my post before about asking a girl to prom, she said yes in the end, this is the same girl as before.

(Said person will be receded to as O from now on)

So me and O went to prom together, we did the usual stuff, a few dances, dinner together. The last song was a slow song, we shared a couple of awkward glances, after it was finished I just got depressed, because she is moving away. I walked out afte the song, just to get some air.

On the coach the way back to school I said to a few friends that I was going to get absolutely slaughtered because of my depression.

 

So a few hours later at the after party I drank 2 and a bit ciders, 2 cups of alcoholic punch, and half a smirnoff sized bottle of cocktail. O was there as well, I was absolutely out of it I can't really remember what happened apart from a few things. I was told that I asked O out, but I wasn't told what she said but I believe it was no due to the fact she was moving away. O also told me we had a chat about her moving away, I asked her what we talked about she said it didn't matter.

 

Today me and a few mates went out, O wasn't there but I was talking to her on Facebook when I said sorry about getting that drunk and saying what I said. But today I've just been so depressed I feel like I'm going to cry just thinking about her leaving.

 

 

So here's the question, should I just tell her my feelings on Facebook or the next time I see her probably on Monday? Or just leave it alone and tell her?

 

Thanks guys and girls.

Sorry about the long post.

[Sirquacksalot]

No Facebook! Facebook is NOT for conversations of any depth. Do it in person if you want to, but honesty what's the point? She's moving away, and you're not going to get into a long-distance relationship with her, right? Best to leave things amicable and keep in touch in case you run into her again later.

 

It seems super important now, but it's really something that you should just forget about. You already asked her and got your answer. If you insist on talking to her about it though, do it in person.

[holymoseph]

Do whats in your heart. But don't expect it to change the fact that you will have to let her go when she leaves. If you think you'll regret it if you don't, then do it. What I do is take what I want to say and then try to invision it from their point of view. Would I be creeped out? Would I be flattered? Lets be honest, when were letting our hearts do the decision making we don't always come accross as the romantic we pictured ourselves to be, we come out as a creeper. But you have to be fair in your perception. Try to see it somewhat objectively if you can. If it were a friend asking you this, what would your advice be?

I can't tell you what decision to make because I'm not you, I wasn't there, and I don't know the girl. But what I can say is you probably don't have to say anything because she probably already knows. We know when a man likes us. If we allude to the fact that we don't, its usually because were not interested OR certian situations (such as her leaving). Hope that helps.

 

And at the end of the day, it isn't what anyone on here says, its what YOU want, isn't it?