Get back together or not? That is my question!

[Leeb]

Alright, I confess I broke it off after a fight and some bad sex. And I regret it so much right now!!! I am so unhappy and I think he is too... but how in the world do you instigate it? Just put it all out there and take a leap of faith or do I just need to move on?

[RedDress]

Yup. If you were the one to initiate the breakup, I think that's pretty much what you have to do. Apologize for being hasty. Tell him you miss him. Ask to hang out.

 

But... are you sure that you were wrong to breakup? What makes you think that the fight is now resolved or that the sex would be better now?

 

It's normal, even as the dumper, to feel sad/miss him... but if the issues are not resolved, you shouldn't go back. You'll just get there and realize why you didn't want to be with him and break up again. Which is cruel. So... make sure it's really, really what you want.

[Leeb]

Thanks for the support

[listed]

Fights are inevitable in my opinion. Bad sex may not be but is hardly the end of the world. The fact that you decided to break up might be more telling, but if you really do regret it strongly then it seems like you have a pretty good case for reconciliation.

[mdrnlvdly]

Be a grown up. Admit your mistake and say, "Hi, I'm sorry for being a jack ass last night, it won't happen again". If he's abusive or dismissive you may have damaged it for all time. Then its time to move on. Give it a day or so for his anger to subside, you may want to start with an email.

[Leeb]

Thanks All, I called him in the end and we had a hard but good discussion and are back together

[Ms Darcy]

Good for you!