I feel horrible,why is my mom doing this to me

[Lostinlonely]

It seems I'm never allowed to do anything,what should I do about this problem?

I'm 15 years old,my parents won't let me do anything this summer I'm not spoiled so please do not say I am I never scream and beg for anything I never have.I have to stay home 24/7 I can't do anything fun this summer my mom won't even let me go to the pool or hang out with friends,what should i do?

It has always been like this my mom never lets me do anything.I sometimes get to watch this 4th grade girl(its my job i get paid) But I am not doing that all summer because they go on vacations and I always have to stay home i hate it.My parents did this to me my whole entire life.I never did or do anything bad and I hate that perverted sick thing called sex I never did it and I never will do it.They get mad at me when I have a friend over because they never like it when I have company over so I lost all of my friends.I feel very sad and alone I hate summer I can't do anything,my mom helps our elderly neighbor sometimes in the morning or late afternoon(that is her job) so that's not why i can't do anything what should i do?

It feels like my whole summer is slipping away

I really would like to join a sport or play an instrument but my mom won't let me.My mom is almost always out shopping for herself so I'm always at home alone sad and bored etc..I can't even go outside in my neighborhood because we live in a very unsafe area.So when I'm home alone I usually just skateboard in our garage or walk around in our garage.My school doesn't have any type of counselor I could talk to and I'm an only child.None of my family lives near me.What can/should I do? I feel invisible towards my mom because it seems like she's never there for me and it feels like she doesn't understand me.

[Ariel85]

I hate that perverted sick thing called sex I never did it and I never will do it.

 

Umm...I wouldn't advocate any 15-year old kid to be out having sex, but your view of it is exceptionally harsh and disturbing. Sounds like your Mom may have some good reasons to keep you at home.

[Lostinlonely]

hey lol sorry that is just my opinion i'm 15 and sex just sounds disgusting to me

 

no offense to anyone we all have our own opinions

[TakingtheBlame]

I second Ariel's post; that part of your post jumped out at me as well. Where would you get the idea that sex is perverted and sick?

 

I wish I had some constructive advice in addition, but as a former sheltered 15 year old myself, all I can say is look forward to the day you turn 18 and go to college. I remember how hard it was growing up an angry, bitter, sheltered kid who listened to a lot of heavy metal in my room and wasn't allowed to go to slumber parties or sleep away camp...some day you may realize your parents were doing this out of love and a desire to protect you (as I've finally started to realize my parents were doing at the time!) Parents are only human after all; they do what they think is best at the time, they make their mistakes, but more often than not they mean well. As I told my poor younger brother when I moved into a college dorm for the first time (my parents refused to finance THAT decision, so I took out loans and found a part-time job on campus to finance it myself) "don't let mom and dad talk you out of moving out when you get to college; do whatever you can to take that step or you'll never be free of them." Worked like a charm, and helped to foster a sense of independence and security, as well as ended up showing my parents that it wasn't the worst thing in the world to lose sight of their children every now and then!

 

I don't know your parents and how reasonable they are, but have you tried discussing this with them (calmly, not angrily) and finding out why they act the way they do?

[alli]

Wow that sounds pretty difficult. You could ask if you could get a summer job but they might just say no to that too.

[Messiah]

Sorry, that's a rough way to live, I endured it too. Some people are just selfish ignorant parents, and don't realize how damaging sheltering can be. I wish you could be out living your life and enjoying experiences, but the only way you can do that is to rebel (furthering conflict with your mother). But hey it might be worth it? You should decide that for yourself. Or you could just endure it for 3 more years, move out at 18, and then start living your life.

[listed]

Umm...I wouldn't advocate any 15-year old kid to be out having sex, but your view of it is exceptionally harsh and disturbing. Sounds like your Mom may have some good reasons to keep you at home.

 

I don't know about that. I think locking someone up in the house all day is more harmful then whatever you imagining having that opinion derives from.

[DarkSoul]

The harsh opinion of sex jumped out at me too. Maybe your mother has instilled this belief in you.

 

Your mother sounds very controlling much like mine was. I cannot advocate to you what I did to get out of it so I won't even mention it. Do you have any friends who are close enough that you can talk to them about this? Can you talk on the phone so you feel less lonely? This is no way for someone to live and I know just how awful it is to be treated this way. Maybe a trusted friend can get their mom to talk to yours and see if that helps any.

 

What if you ask if you can go shopping with her sometimes? Maybe on one of these trips you can try talking to her, calmly, explaining how this is making you feel and the negative effect it is having on your mental and PHYSICAL well being. It isn't healthy for anyone to stay home doing nothing!

 

I feel for you as I had the same situation growing up. I truly hope you can get out of this soon.

[Lostinlonely]

i have a job already on eBay and i babysit part time so i don't need a third job

[RoboDuck]

Wait three years, move out, do whatever you want for the rest of your life.