fifregister Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I came to this online community after the longest, most difficult breakup of my life in 2006. People come and go as they progress through various stages of grief, loss, confusion arising from new relationships, and grief again. I find it so therapeutic to journal my thoughts and try to comfort others. When we see others' pain and try to help them, it is taking care of our own emotional well being as well. Years ago, someone posted on here a great sermon by Nathaniel Bronner: link removed I'm not religious at all, but this talk helped calm me down and put things in perspective in a tremendous way. Regardless of your spiritual affiliation, the message is clear and understandable. It may help you. Here's some excerpt of the text: There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you... let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19] People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat... I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!! If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...... LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ..... LET IT GO!!! If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth..... LET IT GO!!! If someone has angered you ........ LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge. LET IT GO!!! If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction...... LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ... LET IT GO!!! If you have a bad attitude....... LET IT GO!!! If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...... LET IT GO!!! If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him...... LET IT GO!!! If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....... LET IT GO!!! If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...... LET IT GO!!! If you're feeling depressed and stressed ...... LET IT GO!!! If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to...... LET IT GO!!! Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing!!! LET IT GO!!! Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then ... LET IT GO!!! Link to comment
dolorosa Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 This is exactly what I needed right now, before I look at my phone again. Letting go of somebody you love is the hardest thing we have to do. Something happened to me last night, had a dream I was talking to my ex and he told me to move on, he was happy with his wife and his son. I do not know if I had the dream to help me, I do not believe in those things but I love him that much I want him happy, even without me. Thanks for the post. Link to comment
Meriem Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 I can't listen to the audio now but what you wrote really helps and it makes so much sense, thank you for sharing Link to comment
lovesforlife Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Yes. This is the kind of thing I need to hear, over and over. I may post it on my bedroom door or near my bathroom mirror until I do not need it. Yesterday, I begged my ex just to email me from time to time = talk to me, validate me, make me feel like I mattered. He said he couldn't help me. He was angry but refused to acknowledged that. He has walked away. He has a new girlfriend. He has walked away completely and I have been clinging on like a pathetic lost child. I have to accept that it is over. I have to let him walk away. Link to comment
ChellyV Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 And may I add Romans 8:28 All things work together for good to us that love the Lord! Link to comment
imonlyhuman Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 thank you, this is awesome. Link to comment
Eocsor Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Well, if we're talking about healing, the Buddha had something to say on the subject. "You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person will not be found: You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." Link to comment
fifregister Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 Well, if we're talking about healing, the Buddha had something to say on the subject. "You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person will not be found: You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." That's also a great one! Link to comment
little_buttercup Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Great post! I actually discovered that sermon/link years ago while trying to get over someone, and you're right, it's both excellent and heartfelt. Hopefully it'll help many people. Link to comment
HE16 Posted June 25, 2011 Share Posted June 25, 2011 Great post. Just what I needed right now - he wants to leave and the only reason he promised me he would stay a part of my life is because he wanted to stop feeling guilty over breaking my heart. I have to let him go just as he's let me go. Link to comment
fifregister Posted August 15, 2013 Author Share Posted August 15, 2013 Please listen to this sermon. I am NOT religious but it is amazing. It can save you. link removed Link to comment
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