Is this normal!?

[Chestpains]

Hi all,

 

I and my ex had a 4 year relationship and for the most part it was wonderful. We had a mutual break up which I do agree with, there was a time when I wanted to get her back (after around 2-3 months apart) but I didn't do anything about it. She also has a new boyfriend now.

 

Here's the thing. I don't want my ex back we need time apart, she changed at the end of our relationship and we just weren't compatible any longer. I am still love with the person she used to be and I still get butterflies when a memory pops up. But that's not who she is now, and I accepted that months ago. But could I still be in love with the memory of her, before she changed?

 

Is this normal?

[ForumGuy]

This is sometimes called being "nostalgiac" and is very normal.

[Meriem]

Yeah! It's very normal don't worry about it, but you have to remember it doesn't matter what/who she was in the past it is what it is NOW and now is the most important time...