Meriem Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 There is nothing that bugs me more than those memories of the relationship that resurface after a breakup, when you're in a relationship you never remember them, you never think of anythign that has happened and you never look back, but once you breakup, through-out the day those memories just keep popping and they HURT, I always feel my heart aching when that happens, the tiniest thign that is very very irrelevant to the relationship will somehow link itself to the relationship and remind me of a memory, it is VERY annoying and it sucks, how can we stop it? And how can we deal with such memories what's a good thing to tell ourselves when we remember them? I can't wait till they go away, I'm so determined to flush this relationship out of my system it wasn't the best relationship he hurt me so much I've never experienced such pain before in my life Link to comment
DoubleRainbow Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 I am sorry that you feel miserable, and yea, you are right about the memories part. Give yourself a lot of time, dear! I wish there was a On-OFF Switch, but unfortunately these momeries never go away, just fade a lil bit. People say spend time with ur friends, read a book, watch movies...but personally nothing helps me...just TIME...I would make a list( yea..actually write it down on the paper) of all the good and bad points of that relationship...everytime yo have that strong heart-ache...read the bad points...and thank GOD that you are blessed to be out of it... hugs... Link to comment
Meriem Posted June 23, 2011 Author Share Posted June 23, 2011 Doublerainbow thank you so much, exactly that's the only thing I'm counting on right now, time.. But being reassured that they are guna fade makes me feel better, I thought I was with the one the love of my life and it turned out all lies... I imagined a future with this guy and the breakup just broke me Thanks again *hugs* Link to comment
Formula Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 It actually scares me a bit to think the memorys will fade away. I don't think i will ever forget her and at the moment 2 months after the break up the memorys are still hurting beyond belief. Most days are a struggle like today. So i guess it's best for us to just let time heal us. Link to comment
Meriem Posted June 23, 2011 Author Share Posted June 23, 2011 ^ Hmmm, you have a point, I might like the memories if the relationship was a good one and he didn't hurt me but at this point I don't.. Also remember those memories will never go you own them you have them but the pain will go away, I guess that is what really happens.. 2, 3 or even 5 years from now if you wanted to remember you'd still can, it just won't hurt and it'd be just like any nice memory Link to comment
nsomnia912 Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 You could always be like my ex, get rid of your conscience and soul....then you won't care. Link to comment
Melting Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 You could always be like my ex, get rid of your conscience and soul....then you won't care. That made me smile.... thank you! Link to comment
LP90 Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Im dealing with the same issue now. Going on the 2nd week of NC now and this week so far has been terrible. Every single thing i do reminds me of her. Even when im with friends, driving, watching tv, at work, fueling up my car, just everything! I cant help it either. Its bugging me so much too because i want to move on so badly, but most of the day one thought after anothr pops into my head and makes everything so hard again. Even though i know i shouldnt be thinking or caring about her, i keep thinking she is probably out and about having the time of her life without a thought about me even, while i suffer every single day. Just seems unfair that i invested myself so much more in the relationship because now im the one in so much more pain dealing with it. Just cant wait to get to the point where i can go about my day without being so caught up in what happened and all the memories. Link to comment
imonlyhuman Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 you will never forget your ex. but the pain will go away, slowly. Link to comment
Melting Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 It would be nice if you could just shake your head and they would fall out.... Link to comment
LP90 Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Yea, would be nice indeed, but we would never learn anything if that was the case. Sometimes we must fall down and be trampled before we can get up and climb further. Cant let these negative situations and thoughts keep you down forever. We must use them to improve our lives and make them bigger and better in the future. Link to comment
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