How do I accept that someone would want me?

[Shrizzle]

I'm overweight and in my opinion not all that attractive. I never got asked on on dates or have been hit on by normal people, and by that I mean nonhobos or creepy people. Recently, I meet a guy who's really great. He doesn't mind that i'm bigger and he tells me i'm beautiful. However I am a bit skeptical, because in my mind I don't understand why anyone would find me attractive. When I told him that he was really surprised, and said he couldn't believe it. We have only been talking on skype, so I haven't meet in him person yet. (I know he's legit though). But I'm kind of nervous to meet him, as I don't have any experience with guys..So i've been putting it off. I can tell he really like me though, so I feel bad about putting it off.

 

So I guess my question is how can I accept that someone would actually want to be with me?

Oh, and does anyone have any first date tips?

 

Thanks =]

[hexaemeron]

This isn't about you accepting that he feels this way. This is about confronting the fact that you don't. And that's why it's uncomfortable. You need to not project the way you feel about yourself to the motivations of other people. If he wants to get to know you, let him.

[BriarRose]

Sweetie, I know so many overweight people with partners. It truly is not a dealbreaker. He obviously finds you attractive, both inside and out or most likely wouldn't want to go out with you, I wouldn't think. As far as first date tips, just try to have fun, don't take yourself or him too seriously - but be yourself.

[mouseno4]

Very true. I used to know a girl who was a fair bit overweight. She had guys literally hanging off her. I would assume it was because she didn't make her weight an issue. I would not be surprised if she was married with kids now.

[listed]

Girls really don't know what's attractive to guys. It's a different sexuality. Maybe bisexual or lesbian women can tell, but I dated someone who was probably somewhat bisexual and she really didn't have a clue what was attractive from a male perspective.

[ferna3069]

wow you sound alot like my ex when i was with her. girls think of weight as a issue. but its not sometimes u gotta love yourself before loving others. been bigger isnt ugly. whats ugly in a person is a bad attitude

[oldenoughtoknow]

People come in all shapes and sizes. It's common to say that women come in "types" that certain guys like - tall, short, blonde, brunette, redhead, etc. Well, contrary to what the media and advertising community would have you believe, there are lots of guys who like larger women as well. My best first date tip for you is to be yourself. This guy has talked to you and seen you on Skype. And guess what? He wants to meet you in person! You don't have to be afraid of rejection anymore. Don't think of your computer screen as a shield. Put it aside, and give this guy a chance.