reach mania 1 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 These 2 girls are right and wrong Link to comment
Sarah Jane Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 why right and wrong ?? Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 and also whenever someone seems to mention how near it is i just get sad or if i am at home i end up crying over him going on this 11 day holiday tbh i dont want him to go but i know its none of my business really ..... Think of this as an important life lesson. When you are an adult, you or your bf will sometimes have to go away somewhere and you have to deal with it. maybe he will have to go away for work. you can't stop him, he has to go, like it or not. so you both better get used to the idea. besides, it's not like he is going to a forced labor camp for 11 days. he's going on a beach vacation, right? if he doesn't want to go, heck, i'll go in his place!! remember the saying, "distance makes the heart grow fonder." Maybe while he is gone, you can do something nice for him as a 'welcome home present'? maybe paint him a picture, write him a poem, learn to cook his favorite meal, etc... so you can surprise him when he comes back. i bet he would like that. Link to comment
reach mania 1 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Well there wrong cause if ya bf dont want to go like he dont im sure he will try something.... maybe... if he dont wana go.. cause if he loves you soo much he would put you before holiday right??? and im gessing he has?? he wants you more... i cant say wat he can do... i dnt know... but its up to him wat he does when it comes... but he might do something to stop going... but on the right side of these girls saying things is ( its his choice ) so let him decide... let him tell you wat he will do... Link to comment
Sarah Jane Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 i suppose sooo but im not agreeing with it sorrry ........ Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Well there wrong cause if ya bf dont want to go like he dont im sure he will try something.... maybe... if he dont wana go.. cause if he loves you soo much he would put you before holiday right??? and im gessing he has?? he wants you more... i cant say wat he can do... i dnt know... but its up to him wat he does when it comes... but he might do something to stop going... but on the right side of these girls saying things is ( its his choice ) so let him decide... let him tell you wat he will do... If you can't be away from your partner for 11 days, there is a serious co dependent issue going on. You will be away from him in your life, it's life. He can't be stuck to your side 365 days a year. Link to comment
reach mania 1 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 but if he goes then.. hmm id say give him 1 hell of a welcome home present... but if he says he dont wna go then everyone knows wat he will do.. he will try and stop himself going.. so let him! let him decide Link to comment
Sarah Jane Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 he told me he has made his mind up that he wants to stay here but he reckons that he is gonna stop himself from going on holiday but i dont see how... Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 you don't have to agree with it. sorry. if he's not an adult, what his parents say, goes. when he is an adult, he can choose whether to go on vacation with them or not. but then when he has a job, he might have to go away somewhere for 11 days, and he can't just say 'no' - else he gets fired. you are not in a position to tell him or his mother what to do. 11 days will fly. occupy yourself with other things. hang out with friends you haven't seen in a while. maybe you can go and visit some family during this time. or like i said, come up with a project to do while he is gone. Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 he told me he has made his mind up that he wants to stay here but he reckons that he is gonna stop himself from going on holiday but i dont see how... just how old are you two? Link to comment
reach mania 1 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 optomisticgirl..... realli!!! married couples are normally..... and old grannies Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 "Well there wrong cause if ya bf dont want to go like he dont im sure he will try something.... maybe... if he dont wana go.. cause if he loves you soo much he would put you before holiday right??? and im gessing he has?? he wants you more... i cant say wat he can do... i dnt know... but its up to him wat he does when it comes... but he might do something to stop going... but on the right side of these girls saying things is ( its his choice ) so let him decide... let him tell you wat he will do... " It is a holiday for 11 days. He does not love her enough if he goes on holiday??? That is silly. He will have even less time for her when he is working off what he owes to his parents for the holiday. If I was his mother he would be ditching the gf for costing me horrendous amounts of money. Not only that people NEED to learn how to be alone and be independent and how to comfort themselves. What if he goes away to University?? Does he not love her then? Or is he making his life better? If he has to go away for work does he not love her?? My husband is in the military and was away 4.5 years but for the odd weekend. This year he is going to Afghanistan and Thule, so he will be gone 5 months just this year alone. Should I suggest he does not love me? Link to comment
Sarah Jane Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 annie!!! but im not telling anyone what to do im just repeating mostly what he has said... Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 optomisticgirl..... realli!!! married couples are normally..... and old grannies Ah, no they aren't. Adults don't spend every waking moment glued to each other. My fiancé and I haven't seen each other in almost a year. Even if we lived together there would be days we wouldn't be doing things. It's healthy. Being with each other always day in and day out is NOT. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 annie!!! but im not telling anyone what to do im just repeating mostly what he has said... If he is under age he has to do what his parents say. End of story, especially if they are paying for it. Are you willing to fork their lost money over if he doenst go? Link to comment
reach mania 1 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 ditching the Gf for holiday is stupid!! if he cares more on her then it is up to him!! not parents.... 18+ its up to him.... srry girls... but sarah has my side... if her bf dont wana go then he dont wana go... but if he stops himself then he must do it quick and he must face conceqences Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 annie!!! but im not telling anyone what to do im just repeating mostly what he has said... well, if he's not a legal adult in the UK, he has to do what his parents say. once he is 18 years old (or 16, whatever the age is there) he can do as he wants. personally, i would love a beach vacation right about now! those are expensive!!!! you don't mention how old you are? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 well, if he's not a legal adult in the UK, he has to do what his parents say. once he is 18 years old (or 16, whatever the age is there) he can do as he wants. personally, i would love a beach vacation right about now! those are expensive!!!! you don't mention how old you are? She said they were 18 and 19 but they sound much younger. Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 She said they were 18 and 19 but they sound much younger. They do. I'm thinking 13.........???? Link to comment
reach mania 1 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 im sure her bf can pay it back..... if he loves her tht much he will do something to stay... so face it he will do something to stop going end of story... he wont be going he rather spend time with sarah Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 ditching the Gf for holiday is stupid!! if he cares more on her then it is up to him!! not parents.... 18+ its up to him.... srry girls... but sarah has my side... if her bf dont wana go then he dont wana go... but if he stops himself then he must do it quick and he must face conceqences From what the OP said, he isn't under 18. Even if he isn't and his parents are pying for it, is it more right he disrespect his FaMILY who he has known longer than the OP and waist their money? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 They do. I'm thinking 13.........???? That is my guess and if that is the case mr boyfriend would be having his butt on the plane no matter what he said. Link to comment
Sarah Jane Posted June 22, 2011 Author Share Posted June 22, 2011 im not saying exactly are ages but are above 18 Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 They do. I'm thinking 13.........???? My thought too. I also like how Sara and reach mania's writing is almost the same style Link to comment
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