My Baby's Daddy

[Sistah Rae]

I'm having a real time of it with my boyfriend who I have a three month old with. We got pregnant only 3 months after getting together. I'm stuck with him because I'm broke. We are moving into a bigger place this weekend. Our current place is tiny and we are at each other's throats. He has a drinking problem and it comes out on Mondays and Fridays when he plays softball. The other day I accidentally spilled a little coffee on his leg (luke warm) and didn't say sorry because the mug always drips. He started yelling at me with our infant in the car with us. I said sorry. Then he called me and inconsiderate * * * * * and I called him and * * * * * * * , ect, ect. He told me to pull into Wendy's drive through and I said no because of the yelling and insults and because we don't have any money for extras since the new place. Somehow he came up with money for ciggarettes and beer too. Don't ask me how. He started screaming at me and coming at me in traffic. I pulled over. The baby started screaming. I turned off the car and started running. I saw he drove into Wendy's then came looking for me. I got in the car. We got home, he went to work, and I didn't speak to him for 24 hours. I'm at a loss. We get along fine a lot of the time. But we have these awful arguments.

[metrogirl]

I'm sure I don't have to tell you that the erratic behavior caused by your boyfriend will seriously affect your child if you don't do something about it. Don't you have family you can stay with?

[shuttlefish]

The other day I accidentally spilled a little coffee on his leg (luke warm) and didn't say sorry because the mug always drips. He started yelling at me with our infant in the car with us. I said sorry.

 

Well, did you say "sorry" or not? If you didn't say "sorry" do you think that if you did then the argument would not have happened...or would it have happened anyway?

 

Perhaps one of the times you are getting along fine, you can have a discussion, sane and rational, about the affect of screaming fights in front of your infant daughter, and how you can BOTH avoid getting into these fights.

Couple fights are normal, sadly enough, however, make sure you are fighting about the right thing. I'm willing to guess that this fight wasn't actually about the spilled coffee.

Just a thought.