YellowMellow Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 So I have been going almost 3 weeks without contacting my ex. We broke up months ago mutually because he was going aboard for a year, but stayed friends (mainly by his intensive, as I stopped reaching out to him). However, even though we haven't IMed each other. I am still still quickly signing on (while invisible) to see if he's online and checking his facebook page. I really want to stop that all together. I know I need to break my addition to him. But I'm really struggling because part of me doesn't want to move on. Part of me still hopes. Part of me wants to fix it. Part of me thinks, he'll be back in six months,what if things can change. I keep thinking...maybe... But logic says, guess what. He's not worth it. You're better off just moving on with your life. It hurts that he doesn't care anymore. And this NC and made me realize that. He hasn't cared to check on me as he did in January. I mean, I would go off the radar for a week and he's send me an e-mail. It just really hurts, and I wish he would care. And I keep making excuses like, he probably just wants to give you some space (as the last time we talked he said that he still had feelings for me, just not the same as he used to and not the same way as I felt about him) or he knows you have final exams (so he doesn't want to upset you, since he already feels bad about dumping this right before my exams). I was just wondering if people had advice on completely quitting. I don't want to delete him from facebook because I don't want to burn the bridge as I have regretted doing that to people before. But I do want to break my addition to him and just get better. And another part of me wants him to know that I don't want to care about him anymore. I want him to know that I'm done.
DylanNotorious Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 There is nothing wrong with de-friending your ex from facebook. In fact, I think you should. People re-connect everyday - friends, ex's, family - you maybe can re-connect with him later on when the time is right. If you don't want to burn any bridges (which I personally don't think you have on any stretch), but if you want to explain to him why you are de-friending him, then send him an email first explaining and then de-friend him.
mrwebcam Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 You haven't started Nc if you are looking at his Facebook. You need to delete him or deactivate your page so you can start healing. Once you go a day without checking on him then your Nc will really begin
YellowMellow Posted June 22, 2011 Author Posted June 22, 2011 You guys are right. I have changed my Skype and Facebook passwords and didn't write it down, so I can't log in to either of them easily. That hassle should give me enough time to remind myself I am better off with NC. Tomorrow starts my first day. Thanks.
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